Post # 1
This is probably going to make no sense because I’m so irratated right now about this. I went to the dentist to sit with my Maid/Matron of Honor and we were chit chatting and then the dentist started talking to me about the wedding. All was honky dory until she found out that I’ll be 22 when we get married, thats when she turned all omg I’m 27 and not getting married until next year. I’m like well thats awesome congratulations and then she was like I can’t believe your getting married so young that’s crazy. I couldnt imangine doing that your so young. And she just kept going on about how young and crazy I am for getting married.
Now I’m not stupid I know that I’m young but you don’t know me and you don’t know anything about my life to understand why I don’t see my age as an issue. I mean don’t get me wrong I see some people my age and think they’d be crazy to get married so young but first I would never voice my opinion about it and second I don’t know what has happened in their life to make them feel they are ready to be married. I don’t know if I’m crazy and think strangers should mind there own business or what. But sheesssshhh she really ticked me off.
Thanks for letting me rant about this it just really irks me when people feel the need to comment on something that has abosuletly nothing to do with them!
Post # 3
Oh wow, I think it was especially rude since she’s your dentist. 🙁 I’m 35 and I think people will think I’m awfully old to be getting married for the first time, lol! Judgement comes from small minded people but it sounds like you handled it well 🙂
Post # 4
Yeah, that was really unprofessional. Sorry that happened to you.
Post # 5
I think there are either of 2 things going on here:
1- She is not married and just jealous that you at a young age found love
2- She also got married ayoung and it was the biggest mistake she ever made and she was just venting or “warning” you…
Be happy, enjoy your engagement and try not to take in hurtful comments. There might be more…
As an example I was so happy planning my wedding and colors and stuff and a co-worker said to my face: Oh, I am glad mine is over, wedding planning is the worst thing ever. I will talk to you in a month and see if you are still happy!!!
Seriously????Ok, i understand it is stressful but why can’t you be happy for me?
Post # 6
@mrskrumpet: That was rude of her! Probably she was just blabbing away from her own personal perspective and not even realizing how she was coming across.
You could have said, “Yes, I am more mature than some people are at age 22, and I’m completely capable of dealing with the challenges.” She must have been more immature at that age than you are.
Post # 7
Yeah that was rude. Who gets to decide what the “perfect” age for marriage is anyway? You are an adult not a kid who needs a signature.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone its just been really bothering me since last night, I have gotten that comment from a few people but last night it just irked me that much more. I don’t understand how people can be so rude its crazy!
Post # 9
People should keep comments like that to themselves. Sometimes though it seems almost like word-vomit–they get started and they can’t stop, almost like if they keep talking they’ll make it better?
When I went to try on dresses at one salon, an older woman looking for a dress for her grandson’s wedding saw me and started exclaiming how young I look, how I look way too young to be getting married, etc etc. I’m 25!!! In her day I’d have been considered an older bride! I do look young, but when she asked upfront I TOLD her my age. But she couldn’t get past how I looked 18 (and I really don’t…). Err, yeah, just what every 25 year old wants to hear as she tries on wedding dresses.
Post # 10
this was just her unsolicited opinion.
people should keep their opinions to themselves unless asked for.
Post # 12
Yeah, she shouldnta said that, and then went on and on about it.
Rude, innapropriate, unproffessional. Unbelievable!
Just goes to prove that maturity is not measured in age, you think those things and never say them, UNLIKE her…
Sorry this happened to you, don’t dwell on it. Idiots are always all around us
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Post # 14
Thanks again everybody just hurts when a stranger decides to have a useless opinion on a matter that doesnt affect her in anyway.
Post # 15
She was using the “too young” thing as an excuse for being upset that she had to wait so long.
Besides, age doesn’t mean anything. It’s maturity and if you are ready to handle this obligation. My godfather had been dating his Girlfriend only 3 months and she wanted a ring. Her reasoning is “Once you’re 30 the bullshit is over.” He broke up with her 6 months later because she ended up being a money-hungry B. So even people over 30 can be immature.
Post # 16
I’m turning 36 next week and I had someone flat out say, “You’re not a young bride, your family won’t care if you elope!” when discussing our reasons for eloping.