- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My dress is ordered, venue, dj, caterer and justice of the peace are all done, my flowers are picked and most things are looked after (most of which I’ve dont while at work). Im flying in the week before my wedding, because we are having it in my home town because it is closer for all of our family to travel and thats where my parents and my FI’s grandparents live. All of my closer friends are there too. Heres my frusteration…..
I dont want to have a wedding shower, because no one could make it. My friend here wants me to have one in the spring, but I dont see the point because maybe 4 people would be there, and my mom or BM’s (who are also my sisters) wouldnt be there either. I also dont want one the week before the wedding, since I’m going to be very busy getting the final details ready. People are making feel guilty about it! As well, alot of people are pressuring me to have a barchorette party, but again….I just dont want one! I work 50 hrs a week (same with my FI) so on weekends the last thing i want to do is party, and I dont really enjoy going to the bar. I told my mom, my best friend and my sisters a trip to the spa and a nice dinner out would be perfect for me a couple days before the wedding (they totally agreed!). But some people are still making me feel guilty about not having one. My Fiance isnt one, hes driving down with his friend and brother a couple days before, and he said that would be perfect for him (cause he loves driving).
Am I crazy cause I dont want to have these “important” traditional things before my wedding? I’m really getting fed up with friends making me feel bad about not having these parties but i dont think they understand. One friend tried my pressure me into going to Vegas! (Which would be impossible). My Future Mother-In-Law told me that people are happy for me and just want to help celebrate, but they are all invited to the wedding…so i dont get it? Have any of you been in this situation?