Post # 1
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Newbee
I work in a school, and am 6 months pregnant. I keep getting questions from other teachers and parents asking when I’m due, and I respond with March. And i get either a “wow!” or a mean stare at my belly as if I’m lying or something. Everyone carries their pregnancy differently and I’m carrying mainly in my belly but a little in my face. And I also get the “wow, you know your face is getting fat?” I just want to respond with “well at least it’ll go away after I pop my baby out, what’s your excuse?” But I know that is just the hormomes getting to me.
What are things people have said to you? And how did you respond? I can’t take it and I’m going to snap one of these days.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
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I’m sorry, but this made me actually laugh. Someone asked you that?!!!!!!!!!!! What is the ever-loving matter with people?
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I haven’t been pregnant. Be grateful you’re carrying your baby far back so you’ll recover your body faster and easier.
I have overheard the stupid things people say to pregnant women or women who just had a baby. It’s ridiculous. SO’s sister was interrogated by complete strangers about whether she was breastfeeding or not, while shopping in Walmart. My best friend was carrying her infant when asked when she was due. Duh! Where do you think she got the friggin baby from? People can be so thick.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
@panda1126: What an assholeeee!!! I feel like people think I’m just fat cause I haven’t fully popped. That’s hurtful though smh she/he should know better. I would expect that from a child, matter of fact a child did say that to me!! My 4 year old cousin kissed my belly and her mom was like “aww you love the baby?” and my cousin said “there’s not a baby in there she’s just getting fat” bahahahaha needless to say I was dyingggg.
Post # 6
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Newbee
@prahajess I know right?! One of these days my I’m just going to be mean right back!
@IheartUFC Your poor sister! It’s none of peoples business if you want to breastfeed or anything else for that matter. I might just start asking people the same questions back. Did you breastfeed? And then make a big deal about their asnwer. See how they feel lol.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
@panda1126: Wow some people have no tact or manners:( I haven’t really had any negative comments, except people can hardly tell I’m pregnant and I’m 6 months. I find the wright has spread over my thighs and bum, but no one notices (or they choose not to comment lol). Sorry you have to deal with these comments:(
Post # 8
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Worker bee
I’ve never been pregnant either. But wow, seriously? So rude!
I was working on a post partum unit for a little while about a year ago. I remember that the husband of one of the new moms asked why she still had a belly THE DAY AFTER SHE DELIVERED! I was so appalled! I reminded him that um she had recently pushed out a baby, and well a lot of things get pretty swollen, and also that it took nearly a year for that baby to grow and that it will take some time for things to change back to the way they were before baby. I honestly think that a) people are mis informed about pregnancy in general b) and people are very rude.
Your body is doing something amazing so don’t let those losers get you down!
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
@panda1126: I’m also carrying VERY small–I wasn’t even visibly pregnant until a little after 28 weeks! (I looked, in my husband’s immortal words, like I “was hitting the ice cream a little too hard after a bad break-up”)
People kept saying “You must have a deep uterus!”
And I’m thinking “JFC, people. can we NOT make comments about the size/shape of my uterus? It’s weird! After I give birth, are you going to ask me how my VAG is doing?!”
It’s incredible the things that people feel comfortable saying to a pregnant lady!
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
@panda1126: Don’t let it bother you. I’m due with my second and literally no bigger than I was the last time….and my grandma saw me and was like “are you sure there’s not twins in there?!? you’ve had an ultrasound right?” So rude. There are just people who have no tact.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
I am not really carrying in my belly at all and as someone who has always been naturally skinny I honestly feel like there are people that are happy that I’m getting bigger everywhere. I’ve heard, “wow you look really thick” and “you don’t look pregnant at all you’re just getting fat.” – why thank you…should I starve myself and risk killing/hurting my baby so that I look better for you?
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
The best response I’ve come up with to things like this: a blank stare, and “Wow, it’s really amazing what people think it’s appropriate to say to a pregnant woman!”
Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
@panda1126: I hate people. Seriously. Everyone thinks because you have a big belly that they can just say whatever they want.
I have had my fair share of nasty comments, but in relation to you, I told a guy I’ve known my whole life I was pregnant, and he said, “I’d never have guessed since you’ve always been a chunky girl.”
Yeah, he really went there. I’m learning to brush it off. The next person thyat touches my belly though is getting theirs touched back and the next person that says how big I am I am using the “well, I’m pregnant. What’s your excuse?” because I find it appauling that people are allowed to be rude but we aren’t just becuase we are hormonal? I call BS on that one.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
I was shopping at the mall with a friend, who has recently lost quite a bit of weight and is obsessed with how ‘skinny’ she is. I was about 14 weeks, all belly and boobs, I also popped super early around 11 weeks people were asking me questions. Well friend is going on and on and on and on about how ‘big’ I am. I would pick up a piece of cloathing I liked (clearly I wasn’t going to buy) and she wold tell me how I should but it a few sizes larger for AFTER the pregnancy, ummm what? She asked if I was having twins, she asked if I had talked to the doctor about how big I am, at one point she looked at me and said “Geee PoppyH, you sure are getting FAT!”. I stopped in the middle on the mall and yelled at her “I’m having a baby!!”.
Needless to say, I haven’t seen her since.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
I’m due in March too, at the very beginning. I get the same “wow” response from people. I’ve carried in all in my belly and one woman asked me if it was twins.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@IheartUFC: Multiple people I know have been asked when they are due while carrying a just born baby. Duh! Why are people so dumb? I was asked this 4 days after I gave birth while in the waiting room at a pediatricians office holding my 4 day old. I cried. The hormones are rough after just giving birth and I couldn’t help it. She kept trying to talk to me after that while I was getting visibly upset until my husband shut it down.
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