(Closed) People are so rude!

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I am sure she said that because you can make a $150 dress look better then her trashy daughter’s 4K dress. 

Yuck. just Yuck. 

I think you should post a pic of your dress so we can all see the hotness of you

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1999

Basically, the woman was jealous that you looked better than her daughter. I mean a complete randomer says that to you? For sure. Jealousy that you, someone she doesn’t know from Adam looks better in somethign thats less than a tenth of the price of what her daughter paid. I would honestly take it as a compliment.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow, I’m really sorry that you had that experience. I’m not sure what I would have said. Because I have a feeling that in the moment I would have been so in shock that someone would have said that that I probably wouldnt even be able to respond. I mean reading it I feel like I would have said something like “nobody asked you for your opinion”. 

I have had several unfortunate experiences and it really has to do with the fact that I am really tall. People think its ok to stare or comment on it. But I dont go around staring at and commenting on other people but thats just how some people are.

Once I was working as a cashier in a hardware store during my summer holiday and I had this customer tell me that she didnt know why anyone would want to be as tall as me (as if I had a choice!) and that I would never find a husband and she just went on…. and honestly I did not even respond.

Some people really are just rude!

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

” oh my god. You’re right. Quick I need to find an entirely new dress right away since a complete stranger thinks the dress I MYSELF chose is not the right one FOR ME. …… NOT. k bye now.”

thats what I would have said. and then carried on with my day.

people suck

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I guess my point of view here is different than most, but to me it doesn’t sound like she was trying to be rude. She probably just thought that if it were THE dress that you would look super happy and glowing like most women are when they find the dress and she maybe just thought that by telling you that, that you would rethink it and choose a dress you absolutely loved..not that she didn’t think your dress was nice or that it didn’t look good on you but just that you didn’t look as happy as you should in your wedding dress and she wanted that for you (just because she cares about people..not that she knows you on a personal level).

She obviously did not know that you had a second dress that was probably the one you were really inlove with. Just my two cents but of course I was not there so perhaps her tone and facial expressions led you to believe she meant those things in a snarky way..?

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

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@talljabride:  O_o!!!  And you didn’t reach over the counter and smack her???

This would have been me…

….But I’m from Brooklyn…

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Sapphire-Dreamer:  lol, well I was in a small town in Ontario… but being of mixed parentage I was probably the darkest person in that whole town and I was not about to  be the black girl who attacked the white woman. Plus I didnt want to lose my job. But it really makes you think that what you say to people can really hurt because this was like 10 years ago and I still remember it. It doesnt hurt anymore because I’m quite fine with my height now and I am getting married so who cares what she said then but yeah…. now I wish I would have even said something back to her. I think I was just shocked because it came out of nowhere. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

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@talljabride:  I get ya. 100%. But even if it isn’t a physical smack. People who talk out the side of their asses should get VERBALLY SLAPPED!

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow. I honestly would have just said “RUDE” to her and turned my back. Jeesh!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@navywifenmoore:  Maybe they’re undercover employees of the bridal shop going around telling customers how much better they would look in another dress, in an attempt to talk people into spending more.

Seriously though, how rude and tactless. Like you care about their opinion.

Post # 28
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh, rude. I got compliments from the strangers at my bridal shop, but I most definitely didn’t have any sort of “glow” or any moment when I picked my $700 dress. It’s gorgeous, I look amazing in it, but I’d taken a Xanax before my appointment, and I was already worried about money two months into being engaged, so there’s that, haha.

It’s like the people who tell someone that her e-ring is “plain” or something. I’m a pretty blunt and abrasive person at times, but I would never say something like that to a bride. Lord.

Post # 29
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Wannabee

@navywifenmoore:  I’d have asked her ‘What kind of an idiot spends $4k on a dress that she’s only going to wear once?!’

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ha!  Strangers can be so ridiculous!  I also would have frozen and not come up with anything, but let’s pretend.  You could adopt a quietly smug attitude and demurely say, “Well, you know the saying: the more beautiful the picture, the plainer the frame.”  Then turn away all classy and talk about something else.  BURN, Dorothy Parker style!!

 

 

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