(Closed) People are underwhelmed by proposal

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

SCREW WHAT EVERYONE THINKS! You’re engaged to the man you love, who took care to restore your gradma’s ring, exactly as you wished. You have what you wanted and as you said, you loved your proposal. Anyone who talks crap or says it was underwhelming, is just jealous. 

Honestly, most girls on here probably loved their proposals, but if you compare them to this proposal, they will ALL seem underwhelming. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_v7QrIW0zY As fun as that video is, I would not trade my beach proposal for anything. Haters gonna hate, so if people wanted to they could say my proposal was cliche or boring. 

So, enjoy your lovely ring CAN WE SEE PICS??? and ignore all the haters! Congrats on your engagement!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think proposals are so hyped up these days, that if it’s not written in the sky, it’s not a proposal. It drives me crazy when people exoect something theatrical and are disappointed when it doesn’t happen that way.

My fiance and I were sitting on the couch on New Years night in our pajamas, under one of his old ratty blankets. He told me about his great grandmother, and a conversation he had with his Mom at Christmas. It turned out that he had the ring (which was his great grandmother’s) in his pocket. He asked if I would be his wife. I said yes and cried. That was it. I’ve gotten “But he didn’t get down on one knee?!?!?” Nope. But we’re just as engaged as anyone else and I couldn’t be happier. 

I think your proposal sounds so sweet. I love it!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Personally I LOVE your proposal! I got super excited for you while I read it! I think that something so special and personal is so much better than something showy and extravagant! My Fiance proposed to be by playing a favorite Beatle song on his guitar in our home, it was simple and I loved it. 

Your’s is SUPER great because he surprised you with the ring SO well! That was awesome and amazingly sweet!!! CONGRATS! 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think your proposal is so so so sweet – what a surprise! My eyes lit up when I read the part about him getting the ring restored without you knowing or thinking it was going to be possible! πŸ™‚  Haters hate on, I think it sounds like a pretty perfect proposal to me! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Mrs Christopher:  You are not obligated to provide entertainment for people with your proposal story – I don’t know why people have come to expect this, real life is not “the movies.”

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think if you were to cut it short, kind of start at the laundry, or perhaps say that you were so shocked because he had been saying he couldn’t afford the ring and then continue to the laundry, you may get a reaction more like you hope for, but it’s YOUR reaction that counts. I don’t go into the details of ring shopping with my fiance or anything like that when I tell people, I just tell them the brief story… “He took me out to eat and we got it to go. He kept trying to find a good view spot to sit and eat, stopping at a few of our favorite spots but they were too crowded until we came up to a newly discovered area that’s a trail but drops into a private beach. We walked down there and that’s where he asked me” it was on a Saturday but the truth is, he had gotten the ring just the day before, and couldn’t wait to give it to me so he didn’t make huge plans. What mattered to me was getting that ring on my finger. Also 15 minutes after he proposed, I had plans to meet up with a long time friend. I was so excited to be able to tell someone, but she was horribly broken up over a break up with her boyfriend I found myself hiding my engagement ring so I didn’t down her even more.

 

It’s what’s important to you that matters, I think it was a sweet story

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Proposal Shmoposal!

Like the others say the proposal thing is overrated. The fanciest You-tube worthy proposal will not make a marriage last.

And for the record, I loved your proposal!!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

PFFT. All that matters is that you and your FH love one another! The world is so judgmental! Congratulations on your impending nuptials!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Welcome to wedding planning!  You HAVE to remember that it’s all yours and FI’s.  Every piece of it.  Everyone else can take a flying leap!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Don’t feel badly at all!  I agree with the PP though, I try to stick with just the actual proposal moment, not the preamble.  (We had also been talking marriage and had looked at rings a bit, so it wasn’t a total out-of-the-blue shocker or anything.)

My Darling Husband proposed to me the minute I walked in the door of his terrible bachelor apartment.  He just said a couple sweet things and pulled out a ring.  No theatrics, no one-knee; just us in our natural habitat πŸ™‚  It was private and quiet and perfect.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

To me this sounds like the best kind of proposal story. It sounds somewhat spontaneous and it happened in a place that you and your fiance can call sacred – the place where you are building your life together.

My proposal story was not over the top, I pretty much knew when it was coming and sort of also told my husband the TYPE of proposal I would prefer (e.g. simple and private, not on a jumbotron at a sports game lol) but I sometimes feel like I should’ve just shut up and let him do it in a surprise way!! But I don’t shy away from telling people the story because I own it and it’s mine and no one else’s! I don’t think you should let anyone else’s reaction deter you from being proud of your fiance’s extremely sweet and thoughtful (he totally surprised you!!) proposal. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think your story is sweet and reminds me of my engagement story. It was by “normal” standards very underwhelming and casual, but that’s really our style.

Just enjoy telling your story with pride and don’t listen to the negative people.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

It’s what I call “Real Life Proposal”. I had one too. But hey, this is YOUR reality…the start of your future and your family…in an organic and real situation. That’s all that matters. Elaborate proposals and weddings don’t always lead to everlasting marriages. I say screw everyone else who judges your relationship on something they were not a part of and probably will never understand…genuine love between TWO people.

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