People asked which designer I got my e ring from, so they can get it too

posted 2 months ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

Well sadly you can’t control what people choose to buy.  But I can see why you are perturbed.  First of all they were not asking from a good place but a confluence of nosiness and jealousy no doubt especially if they are work enemies.  Or maybe they want to look it up and estimate much it cost. When I received my ring my co workers kept saying: “Wow what does he do…. how much did it cost… is it real?”   I mean just ridiculous Personally I would not be bothered if someone thought my style was an inspiration to them.  But these chicks are not inspired they are jealous and they should have backed off and let you enjoy your moment and kept their opinions to themselves.  But wait the grabbing and rubbing of your hands??? What the Damn Fuck????   No your feelings are correct.  

ok so now that we settled that. Let’s see that ring??? Oh and where did you get it???  JK πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

 

Hapoy Engagement!πŸ’

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

Oh and another thing my Close friend did the same thing.  I had the ring in my hand and that chick grabbed it and out it on!!!  I playfully hit her but was dead serious πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I wouldn’t stress, take it as a compliment, and move on. You don’t have to show them the CAD but telling them who the jeweler was is also a really nice thing to do for the artisan that made your ring. Was your ring custom made? If so, they’d probably never get the exact same ring unless it’s a common design, ie: round solitaire. 

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Just because they get it from the same place doesn’t mean it will look anything like yours. You don’t have to tell them if course but I don’t think it’s a big deal if you did. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Can you tell them you don’t know? Or say it’s custom. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I don’t think it’s a big deal. Even if your co-worker son did propose with the exact same ring, what are the chances you’d ever run into her? And then what, you have the same ring so…? I guess I just don’t see the big deal. With the other co-worker, maybe but again she’s not even engaged and I highly doubt she would get the exact same ring. And if she did who cares. No one is going to care or notice.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

eh. People always get their design inspiration from somewhere. And honestly, people are probably just thinking of something to say on the fly that sounds believably complimenary. But say they did get the same ring. So what? There are literaly millions of engagement rings on this planet. The chances that yours (which Im sure is gorgeous!) doesn’t resemble another one already out there is vanishingly small. 

Post # 9
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Newbee

Show the ring!

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper

I would not stoop to pettiness. Telling them the name of your jeweler is not like asking what it costs. The stone itself is what is unique, not most settings. It’s hard to talk about something so freely at work and then want your privacy though. I would have kept the whole process to myself. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

If someone was bugging me inappropriately about this, I might just say the name of some designer other than the one my ring was actually from…

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I have a custom ring and I usually just told people the designer. I figured what we the chances that someone is going to design the exact same ring that I did. And even if they did, it doesn’t take anything away from me. Infact, a few years after I got my ring, my husband and I were looking at jewelry and we saw the display for the designer and there was a ring in the display that was almost identical to mine that someone could just buy. Husband and I laughed and we called ourselves trend setters and joked we should get royalties. 
I guess if people are badgering you it could be annoying and I can understand wanting your ring to be unique, but you can’t control why people buy. Just try to enjoy your engagement ! 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I agree with PPs – it’s unlikely they’ll end up with the same ring, even if they use the same designer, so just tell them (I actually think that if you are happy with the service from your jeweller, it’s a nice compliment to recommend them to other people anyway!)

And even if someone does turn up with one that looks identical.  It won’t be the same as your ring because it’s NOT your ring.

Mine is a super-cheap CZ ring that is also super-common.  I’ve seen loads around.  But guess what?  None of them is like MY ring because none of them were bought for me by MY fiance as a symbol of OUR engagement!  So mine has something special that no other ring in the world can ever have.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I think if you’re happy with the ring you have, it would be nice to reward the jeweler with some new business

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

This is so petty and immature. You have a ‘work enemy’? Really? Anyways, keeping the store you bought it from a secret is kind of dumb. And if you’re so insecure you can’t handle someone else even KNOWING where you got it then I think there are other issues at play. Is it not a real Diamond and you don’t want them to find out or something? I can’t imagine a situation where you’re actually proud of soemthing you love and want to keep it a secret. 

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