Post # 1
Do people ever ask you how much your ring costs?
do you get offended? Do you tell them?
I had a coworker kind of ” fish” for the cost of my ring by telling me how much the cost of her ring was and then she started asking about my ring. I just changed the subject because it was uncomfortable. We aren’t friends, we are just coworkers ( she didn’t invite me to her wedding and I didn’t invite her to ours). Is this normal?
Post # 3
@aicila: I’ve talked to my close friends about it, especially since two of them were getting engaged at the time and asked about my ring (I have a moissy center). However, I haven’t had any strangers or casual acquaintences ask about the cost. It seems a bit rude and nosey of your co-worker.
Post # 4
I don’t tell people, I think partially because I don’t want to be judged or FI to be judged, whether it’s good or bad. I think it’s rude that people ask. It’s not of their business. People like to compare themselves to others, and I think that shows insecurity. Good job on changing the subject. I would do the same.
Post # 5
As a “mature Southern lady” I would be quite uncomfortable telling anyone the cost of my engagement ring. My BFF/MoH doesn’t even know; she has the maturity to know not to ask!
Post # 6
@housebee: that is what I thought. I think my grandmother knows because she was sweet enough to offer her engagment ring as a trade-in so I could get a better ring. Then she saw it and was surprised ( it was less than a carat but I wear 4.5 so it is a great size on my hand).
Post # 7
I have been flat out asked by strangers how much my ring cost a couple of times. It has always caught me of guard, and I just say “I don’t know, it’s my engagement ring.”
I would only consider telling my best friend or mom and sisters, although they would never ask!
Post # 8
@aicila: The only thing some people ask is how big is it? Many times I change the subject but I will answer my close friends and sisters (usually).
Post # 9
@Cory_loves_this_girl: In my head I thought ” Are women doing this now?”
Post # 10
@housebee: Yea, I agree. It is really rude. I don’t understand why people would think that’s ok.
Post # 11
@aicila: that’s seems like a weird question to ask. She seems nosy, what does it matter? People have offered up the cost of their e-rings before, but I would never come out and ask and it’s pretty uncomfortable when people do bring up their own costs. I would have handled it exactly the way you did.
Post # 12
People have asked, and I don’t answer – I change the subject and ramble on about something else. My lovely ring is an heirloom and the value cannot be measured in dollars.
Post # 13
Not normal – that’s rude! I file it in the same category of heinous behaviour as asking how much money someone makes.
If my mom/aunts were to ask, I may tell them, but not anyone else.
Post # 14
No. And I agree, it’s like asking how much money someone makes at their job.
I didn’t even ask FI how much he paid for it.
Post # 15
@aicila: At least some especially rude ones are! It’s pretty shocking when someone asks something like that.
Post # 16
One person asked me… honestly it caught me off guard so I answered.. but yeah, totaly rude.