(Closed) People asking how much your ring cost ( real world)

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you tell people the price of your ring?
    Yes : (26 votes)
    6 %
    No way : (205 votes)
    48 %
    Maybe- depending on the person : (195 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 47
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Nobody has asked but I would tell them if they wanted to know.

    If someone wanted to judge me on it…..have fun.   I could not care less.

    Post # 48
    3101 posts
    Sugar bee

    @aicila:  That’s never happened to me in 7 years.  I guess it would depend.

    Post # 49
    4161 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The only instance I remember is when an old friend of mine (we used to be really close, but have grown apart since) called me immediately after finding out about our engagement.  I couldn’t answer my cell phone because I was on the phone at work, and she called repeatidly until I answered.  She asked how big it was, how much it was, and then congratulated me.  I was SO annoyed.

    This is the same friend who when I went to see her for the first time after the engagement, flung open her front door, turned on the porch light, grabbed my hand, examined the ring, and then held up her ring next to mine to see who’s was bigger (mine was by the way lol.)  I was like umm can I come in?!  So rude.  She’s very competitive and also told me she hoped that we would get married before her so that they can see everything that went wrong at our wedding, and make theirs better.

    My husband, sister and mom aren’t fans of her…I see why.

    Post # 50
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’ve had close friends and family ask, and generally I don’t mind telling them. Strangers? Never asked, and if they did I wouldn’t say. Kinda rude.

    Post # 51
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Nobody’s ever asked me. If they did ask, I would openly discuss it, I have no problems with talking money, although it would be weird of them to ask, lol.

    Post # 52
    4304 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My SIL asked me once and I flat out ignored her. Super rude.

    Post # 53
    12315 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    This has never happened to me, but if someone ever did have the nerve  I’d say  “Why would you ask?”

    Post # 54
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    It would be totally rude for someone to ask that. Plus–many might assume that you don’t know, as men often pick out the engagement ring alone. 

    Most people just ask about my stone (where I found it, etc.–not the price), because it’s so unique (lab-created blue diamond). No one I’ve shown it to had ever seen one before. However, if I had chosen something more traditional, I doubt anyone would ask about it either. That’s something that happens mainly here on the bee.




    Post # 55
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    No one has ever asked and I can’t imagine anyone ever asking me that. 

    Post # 56
    6556 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Wow, what an incredibly rude question; I can’t believe anyone would dare ask. I’ve never been asked, nor would I ever answer. I’ve always found it rude to talk money, regardless of which end of the conversation one is on. 

    Post # 57
    555 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’ve only been engaged for just under two weeks and yes, I’ve already had someone ask the price and many other blatantly ask how many carats. I realize now (upon asking other engaged girls) that this is apparenty normal, but I was a little taken aback. I would never ask someone how much they’d paid.

    I would definitely tell people like my sister or my best friend, but I don’t think I’d be comfortable sharing the price with a coworker or close acquaintance.

    Post # 58
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve shared on the bee of course because I think he totally overpaid and I was kind of bummed about it before y’all talked me down. I told my best friend because I helped her husband shop for her engagement ring so I know how much hers cost and didn’t want to seem standoffish by being coy when she asked the cost of mine. I don’t have it yet but if a stranger/acquaintance asked I’d be very uncomfortable and I wouldn’t answer. If a close friend/family member asked I’ll joke that he spent significantly less than 2 months salary and they’ll have a ballpark because they know my fiance is very well off but pretty tight/smart with money lol.


    Post # 59
    906 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    If a stranger just asked me? Hell no. If a family member or close friend inquired? I would probably share. I’m sure a few of the bridesmaids know, as do our parents.

    Post # 60
    3339 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I wouldn’t tell a stranger how much my ring cost because, honestly, I’d be afraid they’d try to rob me or something.  LOL!  I’ve told my close friends.  I probably wouldn’t tell a coworker ’cause people can be judgmental.

    Post # 61
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I did have one person ask me and I thought it was rude. She said men are “supposed” to spend three months salary for the ring. My fiance did not spend three months of his earnings. Some men might be able to afford spending three months of their earnings but I don’t think it should be a requirement. Also, this person that asked me is someone who has had many failed relationships and expects a very expensive ring when her time comes, so I felt like she was a little envious and trying to belittle the value of my ring. (FYI, I have a 1 tcw ring so it’s not huge but I think she’s envious of the fact that I am engaged.)

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