Post # 62
@Mrs Canuck: +1 I’ve talked about it in threads on the bee… but in real life, as an “older southern bride” (and an encore one at that) nobody in my circle would think to ask! I don’t think ANYONE other than Darling Husband and the jeweler knows what my ring is worth!
I would certainly not answer anyone IRL who asked. It’s rude!
Post # 63
@aicila: I’ve never had anyone ask the cost of my ring! I can’t imagine anyone asking not even a relative!
If someone prefaces the question based on they are looking for information to buy a ring, could maybe understand that.
I’d have to wonder if others are simply fishing to see if a ring is “real”?
Don’t really know. Takes all kinds.
Post # 64
Co-workers, friends, strangers and even a few members of FI’s family (multiple cousins, aunts) have all asked. It’s incredibly rude. Not only do they inquire about the cost, but also *all* of the specs, where it was purchased, etc. The absolute worst is when someone begins to guess after I provide a vague non-answer and ask “this much?” “well my ring is x so yours looks like xx” etc. I stupidly played along a couple of times early on- both ended awkwardly. One time a friend started GOOGLING my ring’s designer, in front of me trying to find the cost. At a dinner party. What. Also- if you don’t answer the way a person wants you to (or say what they are expecting to hear) jealousy or judgement ensues.
I also get annoyed when someone grabs my hand to “look at” my ring and then visibly eyes theirs next to mine, comparing it from every angle trying to figure out the specs compared to theirs. Cringe worthy.
Getting fired up thinking about it. 🙂
It’s not a competition.
Post # 65
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
My parents know along with my sister and my best friend! I think it is rude to ask a stranger or non close friend!
Post # 66
Only a couple of people (best friends) have asked out-right; and I have no issues telling my best friends.
Otherwise, a few people have kind of asked in a round-about way by saying things like ‘That must have cost a bit!’ then looking at me expectantly like I’m going to tell them. In those cases I just say ‘No, not too much’ and then change the subject.
Post # 67
I have been engaged now for 16 months and my ring is beautiful with a huge stone that LOOKS like a diamond (it’s a moissanite but no one outside of the forum has heard of one). No one has EVER had the nerve to ask me a question like that.
Post # 68
@glitternails: I feel ya, girl. I’ve had people (strangers and coworkers mostly) ask about the size. One was a “wedding planner” that was at a mutual friends wedding. Not only should she know better than to ask about the size, but she was also TOTALLY off with her guess.
I think its rude as heck to ask, and I usually say I don’t know the size/cost, but I need to be better about saying upfront how rude it is to ask.
Post # 69
Yes my co workers, family, friends..i had a few strangers that did as well..I did share this info with family..but not with others.
Post # 70
No one has directly asked the price. However, I have a friend who is very into diamonds, and she asked me about the specs as well as how my then-FI/now-DH was able to have afforded to get me the ring that he did.
Post # 71
No one in real life has asked me about the price, thankfully! I wouldn’t indulge such a rude question by giving a response.
Post # 72
No-one has asked and I’m certainly not going to volunteer that information. I’m just happy to wear it.
Post # 73
Am I the only bee that doesn’t know the cost of her engagement ring? I specifically told Fiance that I don’t want to know how much he paid and, after he told me all the specs (he was so proud of himself for learning about diamonds!) I pretty much forgot what he said because I was so excited just to be engaged. When someone gives you any other “gift” you don’t ask the price, right? I felt it was more in keeping with the romance of the engagement not to know the price. So, even if someone did ask me (I’ve had a few people indirectly bring it up) I wouldn’t be able to tell them!
That said, if I did know I wouldn’t tell anyone. It’s a pretty rude question.
Post # 74
I had a couple friends ask me. One of our friends at our e-party asked what the size was, but besides that no one has asked.
I have had a couple people ask us what our wedding budget was though (and even by an aquaintance. It was kinda rude).
Post # 75
It depends on the person and the environment. Darling Husband said he had asked his coworkers about their rings and their wives’ rings. They were pretty open to discuss what they thought a ring should cost and how much they spent. The range of the price of the ring varied drastically between each person, too. So, they weren’t all ballers with their answers.
Post # 76
I think its awkward to talk about money in most cases, let alone an engagement ring. I’ve never had anyone ask me and if they did I would just tell them I didn’t know.