Post # 92
I might be the odd one out, but I have no problem telling anyone what mine cost. We spent what we felt was appropriate, and I have no problem telling people what that is! They can already figure out I’m not a big spender with my clothing style, older used car, and house though 🙂 So I don’t feel its much of a surprise.
Post # 93
I’ve never been asked and honestly I would never tell. Darling Husband spent quite a bit of money on my ring (probably more than most people we know) and there’s no need for people to know that he had that much money to spend. Not even his parents know how much he spent. Literally, the only people that know are the store staff, him and me.
Post # 94
No one has asked because I don’t have my ring yet. *waiting bee poutting*
Jokes! About the poutting lol. I agree with you all though, it’s so rude to ask! What are people thinking???
Post # 95
@aicila: Not engaged yet, but I probably won’t tell anyone how much it costs. In fact, I may not want to know either, but that’s because I don’t want to have a mini-freakout if he spends a lot. Lol! 🙂
But yeah, your co-worker sounds pretty pushy to me. Just keep changing the topic and don’t indulge her. If she really gets pushy tell her she is making you uncomfortable. And if she still pushes you to tell her then you have my permission to give her a verbal smackdown.
Post # 96
I think it’s quite rude to ask. I have a very close friend who I talk to about anything and everything. She has an absolutely stunning ring and I have never asked what it cost.
Post # 97
As soon as we saw FI’s paternal aunt, she straight up pulled Fiance aside ansoaks “so, how much did they set ya back?” And Fiance felt he should tell her. I was so offended. To me, it is very rude to ask how much someone paid for something, especially a gift to someone else.
Post # 98
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@ajillity81: That’s kind of weird that you wouldn’t want people to see your ring… I can completely understand not wanting them to know how much it costs, but you seem almost ashamed of showing it to people…
Post # 99
I’ve had a coworker ask me how much my ring cost…. (he isn’t from America though and perhaps didn’t realise it was impolite to ask)
At a concert the other day I met a lady in the same field of work as me, who asked me how much money I make.
I must seem very approachable,
Post # 100
I am waiting on my ring, but I already know exactly who is going to ask the price. In my real world, I will be asked the cost, and I will be asked if my center stone is a real diamond. SO and I have already decided we aren’t answering any questions like that, but we’re still working on how to do it politely since it will be family members from both sides. There are a few people who we wouldn’t have any problem telling, but there are others who would use the information to judge, so it’s probably best to keep them all in the dark.
Post # 101
@MsW-to-MrsM: “others who would use the information to judge”
I am assuming because you said this that you have a simulant and not an actual diamond? (or is it because you bought an “evil” diamond and the family is against diamonds? or another scenario?)
What type of judgement would the family make, and how will that actually affect you??
When someone realizes its a sim are you worried they going to think it’s just cheap crap and worthless? Or if they know it’s a diamond are you worreied they’re going to think you shouldn’t have spent so much money?
People here say they feel judged often about their sims and I am honestly curious .
Post # 102
@gemgirl6: There are a couple family members who would judge it for being a moissanite. These family members actually have simulants of their own but just plain do not like me or my SO or anything we do. Even if it were diamond, there would be something for them to gossip about and be snarky about.
There are a couple family members who will feel we spent too much on the ring. They would absolutely endorse a simulant, but not the price.
I am sure no one will think it is a diamond. The thrifty people will be happy as long as they don’t know the cost. The stone judgers will find something to complain about anyway, so it doesn’t matter what I say or don’t say.
It seems like the best course of action to keep my peace of my mind is to simply refuse to give that information to anyone. Those who wouldn’t care one way or the other are the same ones who would never ask.
Post # 103
@MsW-to-MrsM: eff them, you can’t plz everybody!
Post # 104
@mrspinesol: you are right, i am super ashamed. i’m not a look at me kind of person for the sake of posting on facebook.
the people who i am friends with in real life can see my ring. people who are acquaintences really don’t need to see it. just like everything else in my life. i am not an open book on facebook. the people who i am friends with in real life know where i travel, what i do, etc everyone else does not need to know every little detail about me.
but everyone is entitled to their opinion. if you choose to share everything on facebook, that is entirely up to you.
Post # 105
No one has ever asked me. I don’t really talk to people with no tact.
Post # 106
Surprisingly enough, I’ve been asked this question a FEW times! We live in a tiny, sleepy farm town in the rural Midwest and I work in a male dominated industry as a territory sales manager.
-About a week after we got engaged the old lady who always babysat Darling Husband growing up started harping on Mother-In-Law about how much Darling Husband spent. Um, what difference does it make to you?! Mother-In-Law just shrugged her shoulders and said I don’t know and nor do I want to. (MIL doesn’t know btw)
-While at a company meeting some coworkers and I were at the hotel bar. Suddenly they all look at me and start commenting on how HUGE my rock was. A few started asking me how much that set Darling Husband back…I just said, “Well, let’s just say he’s still adjusting after selling his left nut!” They all busted out laughing and dropped it.
-While flying to company meetings with my boss my ring was making some mad sparkles on the seat in front of me because of the sun. This started a conversation about how he’s never seen one so big before and couldn’t imagine how much something like that costs. I just said, “I don’t even want to know, he said I’ll never find out!” And he dropped it there. I think he was just trying to make conversation.
When guys that aren’t engaged but are in a serious relationship ask me I’ll give them a range, not an exact number. I know one of DH’s buddies had a long discussion with him about ring costs and what to expect at our wedding, and a month later he bought a ring for his SO. So in some circumstances it may be a harmless question but most of the time people are just being nosey.