Post # 1
does this offend you? I get conpliments all the time but this is weird.. i tell my girlfriends the specs but when people I work with ask im kind of taken back. it doesnt matter to them so I just tell them I dont know. but some people at work know and some dont lol!
Post # 3
I have never had anybody ask. If they did, i would probably do the Dr. Evil thing with the pinky and say “1 million dollars!” and walk off.
Post # 4
I think it’s rude.
My ring is a black diamond, and much lower in price point than a clear diamond…but it’s 2.75tw, so in size it’s respectable. A high school classmate I have not seen or talked to in easily 10 years saw it and messaged me on Facebook and said “your ring is huge! What does he do for a living?” Bleh. Definitely not something I’d ever dream of asking someone.
Post # 5
I’ve never had anybody ask. I’m very open about dollar amounts on the Bee but in real life, there is no way I’d ever share.
Post # 6
I could never. dont need to know!
Post # 8
I totally don’t mind the size question (except, from like some random dude on the subway…), because the same size stone can look really different from person to person based on the setting and the finger it’s on. I did ask that question of my close friends before ring shopping on my own.
We also bought less diamond than we could afford, so I’m not sensitive to people making money judgements about us based on the size of my ring because if they are they’re likely underestimating. 🙂
We’re really open about money overall though. I can really understand when people who keep their finances more private are hesitant to share anything about their rings.
Post # 9
It’s really amazing what kinds of things people say! My ring is big for my area. I often get things like whoa what’s he do for a living? Is he a doctor? What size is that? etc.
I think it’s all pretty rude honestly. I don’t think people mean it that way though, so I try not to let it bother me. I don’t mind too much if people ask how big my stone is. But if people ask what size is that you can always answer your ring size if you don’t want to answer!
Post # 10
Who does this? Who? I really don’t understand how some people don’t realize that this is inappropriate. Its like part of the population missed their 2nd grade lesson in manners.
No one has ever asked me my ring’s specs or cost though, not even close friends. I wouldn’t dream of asking someone that! If someone ever does ask me the cost of mine I will just say that I don’t know.
Post # 11
argh, Is your stone on your ring extraordinarily large? do you think people are trying to ascertain if its real or if its only a simulant? Eiither way whether its an actual genuine diamond or a sim, it is still quite rude and inappropriate but just trying to put forth possible reasons why someone would do that. People are strange.
Post # 12
Some people don’t realize it’s considered to be rude. My Darling Husband was one of them. When we were looking for an ering, and he saw one he liked on someone’s hand he would ask about specs even if he didn’t know the person. It just didn’t really dawn on him that he was indirectly asking about money (which a lot of people are uncomfortable talking about). If someone asks me about my rings, I don’t find it offensive at all. I mean a total stranger on a bus might be a little weird, but a person I work with wouldn’t bother me.
Post # 13
I would not feel comfortable discussing specs or price IRL. On here, it’s different because we all want to know that we got the best possible deal, but IRL, it’s just uncomfortable. I’ve had people ask me about carat weight, but thankfully no one has come right out and asked the price.
Post # 14
@carlypaige: I’ve never had anyone ask me that, but I think it’s incredibly rude to ask the price of someone’s jewellery! It’s none of their business.
I don’t even know how much my own ring costs.
Post # 15
@gemgirl6: its super sparkly and pretty wide but I guess its just where I work. the types of girls.
Post # 16
It doesnt offend me, but its weird that people ask. I met this girl for the first time through my friend, and she asked me the size of my diamond.