(Closed) people asking you directly about gifts? do you tell them where registry is?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
14185 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Tell them where you’re registered! Unless you don’t want gifts….

Post # 4
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had a good friend ask me and I politely said “We are registered at XYZ”.  She said, yea i know but what do you REALLY want.  I responded and said anything would be nice but what about a nice cake pan to remember all of the cakes we used to bake together. 

Post # 5
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

i would tell people where we were registered. a few people asked me specifically (like my moh) so i told her something not on my registry. (actually I said i wanted her turkey roaster that i have borrowed like 4 times) you could always tell people that you dont expect a gift but if they ask it is cause they want to get you one!

Post # 6
1932 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

yeah I have had a handful of people ask me what I REALLY wanted.. I usually picked something off my registry that I was really hoping to get. I also gave my mom a list of a few things not on my registry to tell people if they ask, like the bedding set we really want is from Pottery Barn, so it’s not on our registry. 

Otherwise, sometimes there are certain specialty stores, like boutiques, that carry items that I would love, but you can’t put them on registries. Like a little shabby chic antique store in the area that I LOVE everything from, my mom will direct the non-traditional gift buyers there as well. 

Post # 7
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve had alot of people simply ask me were we are registerd at and I tell them were. I would just let people know, ” Oh we’ve registered at Target and Bed Bath and beyoned.”. No harm no foul. Dont feel bad for telling them were your registered. I’ve never known anyone to get offened becuase its expected to bring a gift to the wedding. And yes while poeple say your don’t have to. Its secretly expected. I know I would not attend a wedding if I didn’t intend to buy them a gift to celebrate!

Post # 8
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just tell them where you registered.  There is no harm in answering their question.

Post # 9
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We just sent our invites out on Saturday and have already had married (!) ladies asking why we didn’t put the registry info in with our invitations.  I guess that’s an etiquette thing that I just assumed everyone knew!  From what I’ve read, guests aren’t even really required to bring gifts to the wedding (only the shower), so it seems like it would be presumptuous and rude to include the registry info when sending the invitations.  We provided our wedding website address on a card with the invite suite and listed our registries on the website.  No one appears to have noticed this yet, since people keep asking!Smile

Post # 11
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think they would be offended, given they asked you where!  I’ve had lots of people ask.  Makes me wonder why I even bother putting together a website. 

Post # 12
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just politely say, “If you would like to get us a gift {which they do or they wouldn’t be asking you where you’re registered}, and would like some ideas we are registered at XYZ.”

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