(Closed) People Asking You What Your Budget Is…. Weird or OK?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: Do you think it is weird when people ask you what your budget is?
    Yes- it is a money question and therefore none of their business : (42 votes)
    52 %
    No- it is not like they're asking what your salary is : (6 votes)
    7 %
    Depends on who the person asking is and why they want to know : (33 votes)
    41 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    13015 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I get uncomfortable regardless of who it is, but I’ll tell depending on who it is. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1925 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Depends why they’re asking–some people want to know so they can accurately gauge what theirs should be!

    Post # 5
    Member
    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Mrs_Amanda:  I wouldn’t want to answer either! I feel like it’s such a personal question. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m sorry, it’s an invasive question! I’m not even sure there’s a polite way to answer.

    I used to say “we don’t have a budget. We’re just checking off the vendor checklist one by one.” or “it’s hard to budget. We just take the  quotes our vendors give us”

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Only my parents, my husband, my best friend and I knew what our wedding budget was.

    Post # 7
    Member
    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    this always makes me uncomfortable.  especially when you give a non-comittal answer (i.e. “ugh!  too much!”) and they ask again.

    Post # 8
    Member
    4152 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    A friend of mine was showing me her venue pack and it had all the prices in it.  When I stumbled across them I covered them with my hand and said to my friend “you’d better take these”.  When she asked why I said because I didn’t think she’d want me to know what she was spending and because I would feel weird knowing.  She sounded relieved but said that she’d given up trying to be discreet because everyone one was aksing.  I just think it’s sooo rude!

    Post # 8
    Member
    1550 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    People constantly asked me–especially the inlaws because they weren’t contributing financially. They chose not to help at all with the wedding, but it’s like they still had this crazy desire to know how much my parents were helping and how much we were paying out of our pocket.

    I chose not to tell most people when they asked. Once the wedding was over and people saw our pics, people asked even more!

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I found it weird. I didnt tell anyone my budget at all. Its not their business, and theres no reason why they need to know. When people asked me I told them we are still working on it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i think asking how much the wedding budget correlates to your salary. IMO. the more u make the more likely your budget is going to be bigger. so when someone asks i answer thats between Fiance and i

    Post # 11
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    4152 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    That said: if it was a relative or someone involved I probably wouldn’t bee too fussed.  But then, they’re unlikely to ask just for the sake of being nosey.

    Post # 12
    Member
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Weird because it is no one’s business what is being spent on anything.

    Post # 13
    Member
    4520 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    It’s rude and no one’s business. Nonetheless, plenty of people askedm e this question, too, and I told everyone, since I didn’t have an alternative response ready. I should have just told everyone our budget was a billion dollars.

    Post # 14
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    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    depends on the person… i have some friends who are “high maintanance” and are always bragging on what they will have at their wedding and how mom and dad will buy them whatever they want… and they only want to one up me when they ask… then i have others who are really curious and want to know how I am spending my  budget and where I saved on stuff…

    in all reality if someone is judging my wedding based on my budget I hope they dont come and could careless if they dont… its not about money its about celebrating a marriage

     

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