(Closed) People assuming their invited…. Suggestions please

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That main reason i did no posting on Facebook. From the moment i changed my status to engage, the request started coming in.

Those who text i just said it is a small gathering of immediate family,and i have to consider my Fiance said of the family too.

Post # 4
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

First, posting things like that on Facebook….bad idea! People will assume. I wouldnt say anything, and if they ask you again tell them its a small wedding family and close friends only. I think its VERY rude to assume your invited, and they will get the hint when no invite comes in the mail.

I’ve had several people do it to me too, and I never posted anything about my invites on fb! I just tell them we are keeping it small, so sorry!

Post # 6
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3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Agreed. I can’t figure out for the life of me why people always assume they are invited. I remember when I changed my status to engaged, there were all sorts of people hinting at invites and some I couldn’t figure out if they were just kidding or not (e.g. one person was someone from high school that I haven’t spoken to in years except for “Happy birthday” on FB).

I would just send out the invitations and call it a day. If they ask, you can say something about it being a small, intimate wedding and how you wish you could have invited everyone, blah blah blah.

I haven’t posted anything else on FB about our engagement (except for engagement photos) and I don’t post anything about my wedding at all. I think most of our invited friends have taken that as a cue and they don’t mention anything about being invited/involved on FB.

Post # 7
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsDPal811:  Don’t post on facebook!  Lesson learned!

Granted, I still think it’s inappropriate and presumputous for people to expect an invite.  If your FB friends ask about their invite and they aren’t invited, you need to address it tactfully.  “I’m so sorry, we’re keep the guest list quite small.  Still, after the wedding we should go out and celebrate.” Or something to that effect.

Post # 8
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3305 posts
Sugar bee

Write them on Facebook and explain you are having a small wedding. Congrats on mailing out the invites!

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