Post # 47
I haven’t been around here much since I got married last September, so my apologies about that, haha
FWIW, we did the trendy mirror etched guestbook from http://www.idoengravables.com/. I love it, I’m so glad I did it – but a couple people wrote long religious messages which made me rather irritated. It’s just offensive to me that people would assume that I would appreciate those messages and want them to be preserved forever with my wedding guestbook hung up in our home. It’s just… tactless to not realize that others might believe differently and it would be best to keep politics/religion/opinions to yourself with regards to weddings and gifts. It’s easy to ignore and honestly I don’t go and read the messages very often, but still. The messages are along the lines of, “a marriage with god at the center can never fail!” which I imagine is meant to be encouraging but to me is nothing but offensive because it implies that without god our marriage will fail. gah! haha live your life how you want but realize I have the right to that, too! /rant
Post # 48
People at work assume I’m Christian all the time.
I deal with around 60-100 patients every day, and I live in the middle of the Bible Belt, so I get “God bless you” and “You have a blessed day” 3 out of every 4 times someone comes in my office. I’ve also had an event happen many times where the person will delve into their salvation story, or tell me that “All things are possible with god” etc, and I just sit there and force a smile- what can I really do, at work, tell them I think it’s all BS? Sigh. I’ve had people (that I’ve never met before) say “Jesus is so good, don’t you agree?” I just smile again and say, “Okay.” I won’t agree, because I don’t agree, but I really don’t want a lecture from a patient that I’m registering.
As for family, they also assume Darling Husband and I are Christian, and because they are all adamantly religious, I let them believe it- there are some arguments it’s best not to start.
Post # 49
First, I dont think there is anything wrong with donating the religious stuff, but as far as writing the thank you card, and it being hard, im sure she got you that gift from her heart, and shes not trying to PUSH her religion on you.. Its not a far stretch to “assume” (although im not a fan of anyone assuming anything) that you might be chirstian, you said she didnt know if you were or werent. if she knew that you werent and you made that perfectly clear: IE “I am not christian and i dont want anything to do with christianity”, then i might be a little offended. But i just seems like a well meaning gift. I would thank her for the well meaning thoughts and wishes that her gifts/ card expressed and tell her that you apprciate them. Same goes for the GMA.
it not worth it to turn it into a learing experience for them. chances are, they will still pray for you either way.. and isnt that better thank cursing you? lol Ultimately they thought that they were doing something nice, it doent seem like they had any malicios intent, and that is what matters.
Post # 50
Gah! I get the same sort of thing from Future Mother-In-Law. She hasn’t said much about the wedding itself, but she consistently goes on and on about how much she prays for our happiness every night, and thanks God that her sons are happy, etc. It’s very nice of her and all, but it is just so awkward to respond to.