(Closed) People at work have been calling SO my fiance/husband…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know how he feels… I live in a country where birth control, and cohabitation is a bit stigmatized among older folks, and as an elementary school teacher (my now FH is one too) who lives near the school, I never know who is gonna work at the pharmacy.

Someone once asked me, when we were merely dating, if I taught nearby, as I was buying birth control. It sounded judgy. I wondered if they were a parent or relative of one of my students. 

I said, “Yes. With my husband.” 

I confessed to my then boyfriend when I got home about it and he went “yeah, that’s fine, we’re probably not that far off honestly. It’s really only a little lie.”

I WAS SO THRILLED. 

If he’s listing you like that in places… he definitely wouldn’t do that if he hadn’t given it SOME thought, because otherwise he’d look pretty stupid when you broke up. It sure does sound like he’s in it for the long haul. Seems progressy to me. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

People at my job do the same thing. Though one woman says “oh your fiancé’ and rudely looks at my hand and goes “Oh I guess not yet” ugh.   I think it’s definitely good that he not only didn’t mind but he’s already been calling you his fiancé! I don’t think he would be doing that if he had no intentions on making it true! I think that is really great progress! And even though you might have to wait for a ring, its moments like this that make it all worth it!

Funny story for you Bees. My SO and I went away to a bed and breakfast last year for Valentine’s day. I booked the room, and when we arrived there was a spread of fruit, cheese, champagne and a giant pink heart cookie that said Mr and Mrs… with my last name! We had a good laugh about it. Then, when we went to dinner they kept calling us Mr. and Mrs (and pronounced my last name wrong every time…) I was mortified, but my guy didn’t mind. Oh and they kept saying Happy Anniversary… b/c I just randomly checked that box haha. When the one waitress told us Happy Anniversary and asked how long we’d been married he replied immediately “2 years!” I was grateful he didn’t seem bothered by the whole experience because I was slightly mortified haha.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@braverbeating:  I think there is something about bed and breakfasts that people just assume you’re married haha!     

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I know this will sound weird, but I’ve really been rooting for you to not be a waiting bee anymore! You’re just so sweet here and I hope he proposes soon.

I think it’s definitely progress! My clients used to call Fiance my husband waaaaay before he even proposed. I guess it’s good that they see him that way. 🙂

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Before we were “technically” engaged, my FH used to call me his fiancee for random things. I thought it was adorable, and it meant engagement was on his mind. 

Fingers crossed yours is coming soon! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

That definitely seems like some major progress to me!!! ;D

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@braverbeating:  That’s funny because that’s how I am! I always say I am an old soul haha. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Seems like progress to me!

On one of our early vacations, someone at a restaurant called us “Mr. and Mrs. E”, and I saw a look of panic and terror cross his face.  I was amused, of course.

Now, when someone asks me if I am Mrs. E and I contradict them, he scowls “Why don’t you just tell them you are?  You’re just causing trouble.”  LOL

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My grandad introduced my boyfriend to his (my grandads) brother as my fiance, boyfriend was a little surprised but just went with it! 

Post # 16
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Newbee

@braverbeating:  O I know what you mean.  I have always referred to my SO as my boyfriend, but people assume and call him my husband often.  Heck his own father thought we were engaged and said “O I dont know how I made that mistake” most of the time I dont correct people because I am not offended at all by it and when he is with me and people assume were married we just let it be.  He doesnt make a big deal out of it and I dont either.  Its a natural assumption for people to make when your together often and for a couple years.

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