(Closed) People at work have been calling SO my fiance/husband…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
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Newbee

@EmilyJoy:  Darling Husband nad I had a similar experience on our honeymoon. I booked our trip so everything was under my last name. When we got to our room there was a note adressed to Mr. and Mrs. MyLastName. It was funny but also a little creepy because it felt like it was intended for my parents!

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@kat2822:  That’s so funny because that is exactly what I was thinking!!! I was like ummm, I’m not my parents haha. They hadn’t called us Mr. and Mrs. when we checked in, but when we got in the room and were looking around I say the cookie. I had a Sex & The City moment and almost thought about eating it all to hide the evidence haha.

Post # 35
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Worker bee

This has happened to me a few times. Sometimes I correct people. Sometimes I don’t. It depends on the person. But the worst one happened just after Christmas. I had been given a few weeks off from my internship for the holiday break, and it was my first night back. I was just sitting in an office with one of my coworkers when a woman I know came bursting in the room and shouted, “Congratulations!” I looked at her a bit blankly and then kindly thanked her, racking my brain trying to figure out what I had done that deserved a congratulations. “I bought a new car,” I thought, “but people don’t usually congratulate other people for that, do they?” I was so confused. So I asked, “For what?” And she excitedly responded, “For your engagement!” I figured out that she probably had me mixed up with someone else in the sea of holiday engagements, and politely I explained to her that unless my SO has come by and let them in on a secret he has not shared with me yet, we are not yet engaged. Poor thing felt so embarrassed about the mix up! But I just found it incredibly funny and later asked my SO if he had been going around asking all of my coworkers for their blessing Wink

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Before we were engaged, my Fiance and I would totally refer to each other was “fiance”… on like, job apps and apartment inquiries and such 🙂 It made us sound so much more legit (or at least we thought so!)

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

what does so mean?

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

My boyfriend has been calling me his wife to his coworkers to appear more financially stable etc.. he said ‘well it’s fine isn’t it? We’re that serious, right?’ and I was like ‘Of course!’ He also asked me about ring size too recently, so..

Post # 41
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Bumble bee

My boyfriend called me his wife in front of people and I corrected him. I didn’t do it to be a bitch, but I really don’t like using the terms fiance/husband/wife when they’re not correct. In my job, I hate saying boyfriend because to me it doesn’t sound professional so I know what you mean.

Of course, I’m a little bitter because I’ve been waiting for so long and I don’t think he deserves the right to call me his wife when I’m not!

Post # 42
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Bumble bee

@givemecouture:  Of course, I’m a little bitter because I’ve been waiting for so long and I don’t think he deserves the right to call me his wife when I’m not!

So much so this!  Especially since he has straight up told me that a big part of his reluctance to propose comes from the fact that he considers us “basically married already” and “doesn’t see the point of going through all that expense and trouble.”

I’m sorry, but we have been (yes, WE – he was the one who instigated these talks) planning a civil/courthouse wedding, and the rings I want will cost less than $700 for the set, with his wedding band being maybe another $200-300 or so at most, assuming he selects one of the ones he was looking at before.  We’re not talking about breaking the bank here.  We can easily afford this.  So yeah, I’m bitter, and I’m not okay with using those terms myself, or with letting him get away unchallenged with using the terms when I can hear him.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee

@braverbeating:  I would propse to him, and would be totally comfortable doing so, but he flat out said that he would not be okay with it and wants to be the one to do the proposing (probably because he knows that I would propose if he hadn’t put that out there).

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@braverbeating:  Sounds convenient to me. He says it to avoid an issue. Don’t read much into it.

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