(Closed) People at work have been calling SO my fiance/husband…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 48
1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@braverbeating:  It could be a cultural thing with your co-workers. My Boyfriend has been called my husband for years by my co workers because we live together. I call him my boyfriend because the other works make me uncomfortable, but once we moved in together they started calling him my husband.

Post # 50
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I haven’t had any of those slip-ups happen to me… but my boyfriend did ask me if I would marry him.  If I would.  He’s going to wait for a ring to get ‘properly’ engaged.  

But his mom did slip up and refer to me as his wife. o.o Bf’s older brother is married, so I thought it was just her getting them confused. maybe not… I KNOW he’s been telling other people he’s been thinking of marrying me (god that sounds so weird!) but I don’t know if he’s told his mom yet.  He’s already told my sister ffs. 

Post # 51
314 posts
Helper bee

Im getting this  more nd more at work. lol Its almost as if they sense im getting married soon or something. 🙂

Post # 53
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

This happens to me alot, especially when the two of us first meet someone.  People automatically assume we are married.


It’s very funny.  Sometimes I correct them, sometimes I just let it go… depending on the situation.  Plus, I can’t say I hate hearing it!

Post # 54
648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This happens to me too! I’ve been at my job for 6 years and people now call my boyfriend (of 6 years) my fiance:/ We’re not engaged yet, people! Quit it!

Post # 57
10671 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

@This Time Round:  

I think this is exactly right, that if he’s using the terminology on his own, he’s accepted it in his mind.  That was a good way to sum it up.

ITA, he’s signaling his comfort with the idea of becoming engaged.

Post # 58
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @braverbeating:  re Domestic Partner

In Canada, oftentimes people will refer to their LIBF (live in BF) as their Husband… as we have Common Law Marriage here… or if “waiting for an Engagement” perhaps as their Partner (or Life Partner)

The latter is the term I used for quite some time, but I found that for many people the word Partner was confusing.

A lot of people just naturally assumed that meant that whomever was saying it (when the other wasn’t around) was referring to a gay partner… especially when we were in the USA… seems like no one there calls their SO their Partner…

That caused as few hiccups, so I went back to using Boyfriend or Best Friend for the most part (sometimes Husband if the situation warranted… like travelling abroad)

I was actually quite relieved when we got Engaged cause Fiance sounded more adult than Boyfriend or Best Friend, and I finally had a word that truly defined us as we were, and that particular moment in time.

Hopefully… you too will be able to embrace that term.


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