(Closed) People being surprised they are invited…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1129 posts
Bumble bee

I think we will have people on our list who fall into the ‘surprised to be invited’ set.  My fiancee has a HUGE group of buddies and we socialize as large groups often, so my expectation is that since we have invited everyone in that group despite not being close, some of them will either not come or come out of obligation.

Either way – I feel like if I don’t put the invite out there, it’s on me for being rude.  I’m perfectly happy if they don’t come or if they do, oh well. 

The casual friend – had she not been invited – may have been offended.  In our case, I know that had those people been left off, it would have caused gossip, so it was easier to invite them.

With the friend in school in the Caribbean, I would ask her if coming is a financial burden.  My best friend lived on St. Kitts for vet school (same idea) and the cost of flying home with her family would have been upwards of $2k and a 24 hour trip.  She may be saying that to disuade you from making her be the one to say “I can’t afford it” by saying you don’t need to include her.

Post # 5
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

we are getting ready to send out our save the dates, and i asked one of my fairly good friends for her address and she acted shocked..shes like ‘oh well i know you guys are having a medium sized wedding so i figured there wasnt room for us!” ummm…okay?


Post # 6
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i invited one of my BFFFFFs from college who I have extremely limited conversation with now (I dont have FB, twitter, myspace or anything) so we actually randomly re-connected because I found out that we both work for the same (huge) agency (but shes in a different part of the country.)

I thought about it for a little, and I was like “I would LOVE to have her there, and even if she can’t come, I want her to know that she is an important person to me!”

Thats how i justified to myself that I wanted to invite her…even if you have lost touch with that person, how wonderful would it be to reconnect with them on the most important day of your life!?!?

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