People can't hear me when I talk?

posted 2 months ago in Weddingbee
Post # 17
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I have the opposite problem…. people constantly have to tell me to tone it down and what feels like a whisper I’m told sounds normal lol. Byproduct of teaching middle school band I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️

Projection is key. I dislike the term “from your diaphragm” because it’s completely anatomically I correct. If that thought process helps you good. If you find your voice wearing out or getting sore it means you are talking from your throat and need to use more air when you speak. Look into vocal warm ups like sirens and singing! It helps you learn to use your air to project your voice rather than shouting. 

Post # 18
244 posts
Helper bee

camoandglitter :  so interesting–I’m five feet and I’ve been much shorter than my friends all my life, so I’ve gotten used to projecting like crazy. I now have the “you’re too loud” problem. Perhaps I can attibute it to being a cheerleader in my younger years.

OP, I’d definitely look into projection techniques. I seem to have a good amount of friends (mostly male, strangely) who have a “mumble” problem. They don’t necessarily talk quieter, but they tend to drop off the ends of their sentences and sometimes physically turn their heads away. Their words also tend to run together at times, which just generally makes them more difficult to understand. Maybe ask some family members who’ve been around you for a while to weigh in? I seem to notice my brother and sisters’ small quirks and how they’ve grown and developed over the years more than their friends.

Post # 19
6450 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

hockeybee0104 :  I teach, and I was just thinking that no middle school teacher would ever have this issue! Indeed, I have become very conscious of how loudly or quietly I need to speak in certain situations, otherwise if I am not paying attention I might accidentally be heard across a football field. My colleagues and I never need to worry if there’s no microphone; we can all be heard without one.

So I imagine this all has to do with what you are used to doing with your voice. I speak a good portion of the day, but my voice is never tired, like it would be from shouting; I am just accustomed to projecting and don’t even think about it anymore. For those who speak quietly, it is a struggle to hear them if there is any sort of background noise. So I am sure people aren’t intentionally ignoring you, OP, and you are just as important as anyone else. You just need to let them know you’re there. 

Post # 20
400 posts
Helper bee

What PP suggested are very good ideas. But also, don’t just start talking and keep talking. When you want to say something, first make sure you have their attention with a louder hi, hey, or excuse me (politely), wait for them to see you and make eye contact. Then say what you need to say. 

mrsdogmama0618 :  

Post # 21
1124 posts
Bumble bee

Have you tried blowing an air horn and screaming into a megaphone? 

Lol I’m soft spoken too so I have to consciously remind myself to speak up, especially on the phone

Post # 22
1280 posts
Bumble bee

It can also be the tone or frequency? I’ve noticed that people who have low voice are hard to hear when there is other noise. A friend of mine has slightly high pitched voice and in a bar it is brilliant since you can always hear her.

Post # 23
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

We have this same problem with my husband, I realized he gets lazy when producing bilabials and doesn’t enunciate properly. I gotta remind him to make conscious effort to take his time and enunciate. Maybe it’s something similar? 

Post # 24
4871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Perhaps you have to preface everything you say with a louder “hey!”, Excuse me, where is the…”, “I have a story too…” Etc. Make.the beginning short, Loud,, and commanding of people’s attention.

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