Post # 1
Not quite as drastic as it may sound (although we have had people we barely even know assume they’ll be invited and then get really snotty when we tell them no) but several people who are quite obviously going to be invited (close friends) ask why they haven’t had their physical invitations already! We’re still 10 months out I think they’re just excited for us, which is really nice. We’re the first of our friends to get married so I think that’s why they’re so psyched and also why they don’t reailse we won’t be sending them out for a few months. We’ve not even got the invitations printed yet, but I think once they’re done I’ll just take them round to the people who have already asked for theirs so they hush about me not being fast enough.
Post # 4
Why not just tell them “Oh, we’re still almost a year out. We’ll be sure to send them XX months before the wedding, so look for them in MONTH!”
Post # 5
@Seashells7: We’re not doing Save-The-Date Cards. I don’t really see the point for a non-DW, especially with a small budget. The only person who’ll be flying in is one of my BMs and everyone else already knows the date.
@pharmy: I’ve said “We’ll be sending them out around March time” and apparently they’re shocked that it won’t be before because it’s such a big deal. I think it’s cute, but it’s making me really antsy to get the invitations printed and ready!
Post # 6
I too am guessing they are most familiar with Save The Dates, and wondering why they haven’t seen one from you guys.
Not a big deal… IMO Save The Dates are more hassle than they are worth if one isn’t doing a Destination Wedding (too many tales of couples who get excited and send out too many Save-The-Date Cards… BEFORE they actually crunch their Wedding numbers to see what they can afford… then they feel bad because they can’t afford to invite people they sent Save-The-Date Cards to. Several posts on that topic here on WBee)
If one is having a Wedding that isn’t a Destination Wedding, then the age old custom of writing friends & family who live a fair distance and would need to travel to the Wedding, is just as effect as a STD, giving them a heads-up as the details become known / solidified
Everyone else can certainly get by with waiting until the Invitations are printed and in the mail. The normal send out timeframe is 8 to 12 Weeks prior to the Date (although there are certainly Weddings where the Invites are in the mail at the 4 Month Prior mark)
Hope this helps,