(Closed) People Do Not Take Me Seriously

posted 12 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Troubled, I agree about the men thing. Not just in wedding business, but any time you’re going to be spending money or working in a professional environment. I have taken very good care of my skin, and have long hair. I style myself after Audrey Hepburn/Jacki O, lots of fitted cardigans, blouses, capris, flats and dresses. Sometimes dressing sophisticated backfires and they think I’m showing off, not trying to just be a professional. I save my trendy (younger) clothes for nights out, days off, etc.

Stll though, I have been treated rudely by more jewelers than I can count. I dressed up that day, looked very put together, was assertive, polite and cheerful, but sometimes you can’t control the judgements of other people. They assume because I look so young that I have no money or must not be serious. It is their loss. Just feel good that you look very good and take your business elsewhere!

Post # 18
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This might be a crazy idea, (Im 5’1 petite myself) but why not take your hubby-to-be with you when you talk to vendors, jewelers, etc? They may try to ignore you alone, but no wedding vendor is going to ignore a newly engaged couple which means $$$ for them.

Post # 19
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I know EXACTLY how you feel. All of the women in my family look younger than they are (blame it on the skin!) and it doesn’t help that I’m 4’11. Fi looks young also, about 17 or so. I look about 15-16. We’re both 20, turning 21 before August. We went to ONE bridal show and everyone ignored us until I told them that I am the bride. One person thought I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for “My big sissy”. After the first few times I just told them I’ll take my business where people don’t judge immediately on looks. It’s tough, but I’ve found it easiest when you talk to people on the phone and really got a lot of info out of them and THEN go in and see them. That way you know each other a bit more.

Post # 20
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2011

That happened to me too.

On top of being petite, when I went for my gown shopping, I was the only bride that was shopping by herself.  Everyone had their moms, sisters, dads, BMs, etc… And since all my family lives in Europe, I have no one here to share the experience, so they didn’t take me seriously in the first couple of stores I have been.  Very rude, I am not giving them by business either.

Post # 21
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13 posts
Newbee

Just thought I’d share this funny misunderstanding – I went to get my wedding dress altered (it’s short, but it’s ivory and poufy and fairly fancy) and the tailor thought it was my high school graduation dress and congratulated me on graduation! I do look kind of young but I was still surprised, given the fancy look of the dress. I haven’t gotten any of the rude treatment from vendors that some of you have though, sorry to hear that you weren’t taken seriously.

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