Demanding/asking for invitation

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
125 posts
Blushing bee

mrsptobe2017 :  I was shocked and didn’t say anything at the time. Hahah! Isn’t it hilarious how we can always come up with the best come backs hours later?! 


Chrissielisabet :  A little part of me wants him to ask why he didn’t get invited, and a big part of me wants to tell him “we didn’t invite assholes to our wedding” haha! 

Post # 17
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

A co-worker said to me, in the middle of a staff meeting “I better be invited to your wedding.” She was a contractor (so someone I was only working with occasionally and nowhere near as long as I’d been working with others who weren’t invited.) I cringed with embarrassment for her but I just smiled and said “Shhhhh!” and played it off.

After a while, my go-to was to just smile and then do whatever I wanted to do.

People trying to put me on the spot, though, usually find out that I’m not the one to try. Your uncle was a dick to ask in front of his girlfriend if he could bring her, OP. I probably would have embarrassed both of them with my response. 

“Are you asking me in front of her because you think then I can’t or won’t say no to you bringing your mistress to my wedding after you’ve been cheating on someone who has not only been my aunt by marriage for years but is also the mother of my long time friend? What do you think?”


“No, I don’t think so. And if you keep messing with me yours might get lost in the mail.” and then laugh and change the subject.

Post # 18
916 posts
Busy bee

rusticchic212 :  Exactly! My one cousin who demanded an invite  brought her 3 year old daughter instead of her husband although it was a child free event except for my bridal party kids. And of course she came empty handed with no gift, 

Post # 20
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Chrissielisabet :  aww man. Your response was great (and much less combative than my responses tend to be.) Your uncle sounds like a dick, unfortunately. I feel for his ex.

Post # 21
2003 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

“Oh, we’re having a smaller wedding and it’s mostly Fiance family!”


then that person goes on the do not invite list. You don’t tell me what to do. 

Post # 22
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My wedding is immediate family only and we just got engaged like a month ago so we’ve only encountered this with a few people so far. My Fiance had a college friend ask about his invite and when my Fiance explained that it was immediate family only this friend still thought he should get an invite. Like, you aren’t even that close of friends?? Another college friend sent a thank you card for us attending their wedding saying they couldn’t wait to celebrate with us at ours…awkward… 

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