(Closed) People getting trashed at the Rehearsal Dinner

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would it bother you if guests got trashed the night of your RD?
    Yes! They should respect the fact that our wedding is the next day : (32 votes)
    31 %
    Maybe, it depends : (35 votes)
    34 %
    No, they are allowed to be hungover on our wedding day if they choose : (37 votes)
    36 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    34 posts
    • Wedding: April 2011

    If it was just guests that were hungover, then no. Seeing as how it was part of your bridal party, then yeah, I would be pissed. I understand they are taking time away from work and their own plans, and I GREATLY appreciate that but I also think getting wasted the night before is a bit disrespectful. It’s not the end of the world and I probably wouldn’t mention it to them (after the fact) but I would be upset.

    Post # 4
    1303 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wouldn’t care unless someone throws up on me the next day or just doesn’t show up b/c of it.  Other than that, people can do whatever they want.  I can’t police them over a wedding, even if it’s mine.

    Post # 5
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Eh, I honestly wouldn’t care unless there were people puking AT my wedding or ON me. If people are a little hungover thats there choice.

    Post # 6
    8736 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think I’d probably be a little disappointed, especially if it was the wedding party, but it wouldn’t ruin my day unless someone missed the wedding, got sick during the ceremony/reception, or couldn’t participate in the getting ready part of the morning.

    I figure the guys will drink the night before the wedding, I just don’t want them to be standing up there next to my Fiance and hurting.

    Post # 7
    5976 posts
    Bee Keeper

    As long as they were able to keep it together the next day, I wouldn’t care. We were just at a friend’s wedding where almost the entire bridal party got pretty drunk the night of the rehearsal dinner. We were all fine for the wedding, but we don’t see each other all that often. So we just partied a lot over 2 days!

    Post # 8
    6996 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    we all pretty much got smashed AFTER my FSIL’s rehearsal dinner….including her and the groom – we went to a local jazz club after the actual rehearsal dinner. Luckily it was on a Thursday so we had friday to recover, kind of. we were still running around doing wedding stuff.

    People are there to enjoy the festivities, as long as they can function like normal people the next day (more so the bridal party than anyone else) i dont see a problem with it.

    Post # 9
    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    As long as it didn’t affect me or the roles they were supposed to perform, I don’t care. I want them to have a good time. I want them to remember that they enjoyed the weekend and not that I had some strict standards for them just because “Its my day”

    Post # 10
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    One of our groomsman was trashed all night (in my presence).  We wanted to hang out at the bar after dinner, but he wouldn’t go back to his room, so we all had to turn in early.  I was super annoyed.  But in general I don’t care as long as it doesn’t affect me.

    Post # 11
    1801 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d be annoyed if it was a member of the wedding party, immediate family or someone actively involved in the wedding day because it would most likely affect their participation and behavior on the wedding day.

    Post # 12
    654 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @2PeasinaPod: I agree with you.  If it had no impact on the wedding day then I wouldn’t care.

    Post # 13
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If they couldn’t or didn’t want to party with me at the wedding b/c they were drunk the night before I would be upset.  I’d be really mad if they didn’t show up or were late b/c they were hungover. 

    Post # 14
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    As long as everyone shows up and fulfills their wedding party responsibilitities, I would have no problem with it.  They are adults, so choosing how much to drink is their own business.

    Post # 15
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I think that it shows an absence of class to get totally and completely smashed (plus I would expect the wedding party to understand how much alcohol costs, and that it’s totally inappropriate to be cleaning out the pockets of whoever is paying for the booze, unless it was a cash bar). I mean, whatever, it’s their choice, but it would definitely bug me. This is a big reason why we’re not having an open bar — there are people on both sides of our family who would use it as an excuse to get stupid drunk, and I am not okay with paying for that.

    Post # 16
    5920 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I wasn’t going to comment on this, since it is currently a really sore subject for me.  Our wedding was last week, and at/after our rehearsal dinner, several members of our party went out and got drunk.

    One of our ushers got ARRESTED and spent the night in jail after a DWI, and another groomsmen continued to drink the following day, and was an utter humiliation to everyone, insulting our officiant, grandfather, and almost getting into a fistfight at the reception.

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