(Closed) People going against your vision?

posted 9 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are still in the early planning stages, but I have one. Mines the opposite of your table linen one.

Our location is this lodge in a park that has a cobble stone exterior and wood interior. The tables and benches are all wood. I said that I was considering NOT doing linens because I loved all the wood. I got a lot of weird looks from the people I told. Granted there are some flaws on the tables, but there’s also some old wooden furniture, wood ceiling fans and mini chandelier style lights in the place so I think it makes it look rustic (which I want). We have such a miniscule budget it made me fume that I should do linens on our measily budget because they don’t like my vision. Arg.

Post # 5
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

NO ONE understood my vision except my now husband. My aunt told me it was a bad idea, my mom rolled her eyes, at every discussion and with every vendor, his mother started telling people who asked about the wedding plans ‘i dont know whats going on with this mess’!  In the end, everyone LOVED it and if I do say so myself, I am considered quite the visionary amongst my peers…

Basically, I had a very ‘grown up’ cocktail party.  Lots of music, dancing, and cocktails.  The ceremony was outside on the water.  the reception was inside a permanent tent.  there were a combination of cocktail tables and large rounds.  and everything, including the ceremony, was candlite…ceremony started around 7:30 pm.

person a: tent?  that sounds so cheap and tacky.

person b: cocktail tables?  you mean youre not doing assigned seating?  ive never been to a wedding without assigned seating?

his mother: navy blue?  that is going to be awful.  i hate navy blue.

F-em all is what I said then.  And after the wedding when every one was telling me how wrong they were, I just had the most smug grin on my face!

Post # 6
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh, Mrs. Morgan, that sounds like a lovely affair! That’s pretty much perfect sounding to me… sorry your family was confused 

Post # 7
636 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

A friend of my Mother-In-Law who couldn’t attend the wedding sent along a bride and groom teddy bear set that she made and my Mother-In-Law insisted that they be displayed at the wedding.  She wanted them at our sweetheart tabel (NO!) but my coordinator diffused the situation and placed them on the gift table.  I hoped people would assume they were a gift and not part of our decor.  Our wedding was very formal and I had planned every detail to the letter and teddy bears definitely did not ‘go’! 

Post # 8
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have a good situation for this post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So my wedding planner, fiance, and I are at a "mock table setting/flowers/wedding set up" done by a potential florist who is there to show me what he can do for me on my wedding day. He set an entire table, did a centerpiece, etc. and it was gorgeous, but it was my very first time seeing anything at all. So obviously there’s lots that didn’t fit what I want, for one, I don’t like the chair covers, the flowers are not my ideal flowers, I don’t like that draping, I hate all the gold on the table …. 

Anyway, I said to the florist, well "I’d really like to see what a chivari chair looks like, I love the natural, simple feel of them … I think it would bring a nice feel to the room." 

This is the florists response: *he rips off the chair cover in a fit* "THIS IS WHAT A CHIVARI CHAIR LOOKS LIKE" "SEEEE" 

Me: "____ (insert look of shock)___ Okay, thank you." LOL Omg, how the hell am I supposed to react. 

He totally freaked out when I said I’d like to see a chivari chair.  [attachment=233675,24674]

Post # 9
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

When i bought up the idea of the courthouse wedding, my mom suggested we instead do it outside, at a lake, with a hired officiant, and added a bunch of other cutesy details and about 20 of our closest friends/relatives. Which would have been great! Except that sounds exactly like my first wedding, which my mom helped a lot in planning. I definitely didn’t want any deja vu!

Post # 10
1205 posts
Bumble bee

I just recently had a lady suggest that I do "pin curls"?? on the side of my head and on my forehead – which would have been lovely, had I wanted to look like a flapper!  She even went so far as to suggest a type of "glue" to use to do it.  Seriously?  I have LONG, very curly, dark brown hair.  Any pin curl would have been like 20 inches long – can you imagine???  all wrapped in a circle an glued to my head??? 

Post # 11
3331 posts
Sugar bee

Our cake was baked by a family friend and she did it as our gift.  We spoke a lot in advance about the design of the cake and I showed her multiple photos of the design I wanted.  I wanted flowers as a cake topper, so I made sure that we ordered extra flowers so she had enough flowers (that matched the bouquets) to decorate the cake.  Now, our wedding colors were black, ivory and gold/champagne and we did all white flowers–tulips, carnations and rannuculus.

What did she put on top of the cake?!  A bright pink Gerbera Daisy!!  WHAT?  When I saw the cake I was so mad, because I had made sure that she had the right flowers for the cake.  The cake tasted great, but everytime I see a photo of it, it annoys me.  My husband even altered one photo we like in Photoshop to make it white. 😉

Post # 12
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My aunt, bless her heart, asked if I would want to wear her dress and have it fitted to my size. That’s great and fine and I’ll even look at it to be nice, but she got married in 1994, the era of the big and poufy. ::sigh::

Post # 13
1454 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Ohhh I so hear ya. Two of my aunts volunteered their dresses a la Curlysue. Very nice, but- they got the dress they wanted, taht wasn’t dated- why shouldn’t I. Future Mother-In-Law has been the WORST, so we stopped asking her opinion/saying what we might do and started saying what we already decided on (non-negotiable.) Even down to she complained for a while that we should get married in Fall 09 instead of March 2010. (We need FI’s xmas bonus and year end bonuses!)

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