Post # 1
Ok, so I know most of us have a pretty good vision of what we want for our wedding, but not everyone gets it. I thought it might be funny to share the things people have suggested or done for your wedding that totally went against your vision and made you wonder what the heck they were thinking.
1. My (now) Mother-In-Law suggested we have the wedding on the grass of our apartment complex. I don’t think you can find a single area that’s wider than 10 feet and doesn’t slope because it’s mostly pond. Oh, and there are tons of ducks so duck poo is everwhere. Pleasant!
2. My husband didn’t get why we needed tables linens. (Our venue provided us with those plywood tables with the metal legs)
3. We were going to have an outdoor ceremony at a beautiful historic estate (it ended up raining) and because my aunt didn’t want to get hot sitting in her chair in the sun before the ceremony started my grandma (without asking me if it was ok) told her she could just bring her own lawn chair and sit in the shade beforehand. My cousin, who was my bridesmaid, flipped out and told her it wasn’t some backyard bar-b-q and that she shouldn’t arrive an hour before when it’s only a 15 min drive to our venue or else just to sit in her car with the ac on. I wasn’t going to say anything, but I was secretly a bit glad she said something.
4. I spent $45 on two flowers to wear in my hair, which was pinned back on one side. My hairdresser gave it a little height in the back so she used a couple bobby pins to secure it and wanted to hide the pins with those cheap, tiny flowers that you can get at Michaels or any craft store for like $0.20 each and come in every color imaginable. So I would have had 2 large flowers on the side and like 10 tiny, non matching ones in the back. Definately put my foot down on that one! haha
Those are the ones I can think of right now. What about you?
Post # 3
We are still in the early planning stages, but I have one. Mines the opposite of your table linen one.
Our location is this lodge in a park that has a cobble stone exterior and wood interior. The tables and benches are all wood. I said that I was considering NOT doing linens because I loved all the wood. I got a lot of weird looks from the people I told. Granted there are some flaws on the tables, but there’s also some old wooden furniture, wood ceiling fans and mini chandelier style lights in the place so I think it makes it look rustic (which I want). We have such a miniscule budget it made me fume that I should do linens on our measily budget because they don’t like my vision. Arg.
Post # 4
@Bamboo – I’ve seen a few weddings featured online that have the long wooden tables and benches and it looks gorgeous! Maybe they were just imagining the type of plywood tables we had? I don’t think there’s any way you can make those suckers look good by themselves lol. I wish we could have saved some money there too. I was blown away with how much linens cost and ours were nothing fancy.
Post # 5
NO ONE understood my vision except my now husband. My aunt told me it was a bad idea, my mom rolled her eyes, at every discussion and with every vendor, his mother started telling people who asked about the wedding plans ‘i dont know whats going on with this mess’! In the end, everyone LOVED it and if I do say so myself, I am considered quite the visionary amongst my peers…
Basically, I had a very ‘grown up’ cocktail party. Lots of music, dancing, and cocktails. The ceremony was outside on the water. the reception was inside a permanent tent. there were a combination of cocktail tables and large rounds. and everything, including the ceremony, was candlite…ceremony started around 7:30 pm.
person a: tent? that sounds so cheap and tacky.
person b: cocktail tables? you mean youre not doing assigned seating? ive never been to a wedding without assigned seating?
his mother: navy blue? that is going to be awful. i hate navy blue.
F-em all is what I said then. And after the wedding when every one was telling me how wrong they were, I just had the most smug grin on my face!
Post # 6
Oh, Mrs. Morgan, that sounds like a lovely affair! That’s pretty much perfect sounding to me… sorry your family was confused
Post # 7
A friend of my Mother-In-Law who couldn’t attend the wedding sent along a bride and groom teddy bear set that she made and my Mother-In-Law insisted that they be displayed at the wedding. She wanted them at our sweetheart tabel (NO!) but my coordinator diffused the situation and placed them on the gift table. I hoped people would assume they were a gift and not part of our decor. Our wedding was very formal and I had planned every detail to the letter and teddy bears definitely did not ‘go’!
Post # 8
I have a good situation for this post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So my wedding planner, fiance, and I are at a "mock table setting/flowers/wedding set up" done by a potential florist who is there to show me what he can do for me on my wedding day. He set an entire table, did a centerpiece, etc. and it was gorgeous, but it was my very first time seeing anything at all. So obviously there’s lots that didn’t fit what I want, for one, I don’t like the chair covers, the flowers are not my ideal flowers, I don’t like that draping, I hate all the gold on the table ….
Anyway, I said to the florist, well "I’d really like to see what a chivari chair looks like, I love the natural, simple feel of them … I think it would bring a nice feel to the room."
This is the florists response: *he rips off the chair cover in a fit* "THIS IS WHAT A CHIVARI CHAIR LOOKS LIKE" "SEEEE"
Me: "____ (insert look of shock)___ Okay, thank you." LOL Omg, how the hell am I supposed to react.
He totally freaked out when I said I’d like to see a chivari chair. [attachment=233675,24674]
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
When i bought up the idea of the courthouse wedding, my mom suggested we instead do it outside, at a lake, with a hired officiant, and added a bunch of other cutesy details and about 20 of our closest friends/relatives. Which would have been great! Except that sounds exactly like my first wedding, which my mom helped a lot in planning. I definitely didn’t want any deja vu!
Post # 10
I just recently had a lady suggest that I do "pin curls"?? on the side of my head and on my forehead – which would have been lovely, had I wanted to look like a flapper! She even went so far as to suggest a type of "glue" to use to do it. Seriously? I have LONG, very curly, dark brown hair. Any pin curl would have been like 20 inches long – can you imagine??? all wrapped in a circle an glued to my head???
Post # 11
Our cake was baked by a family friend and she did it as our gift. We spoke a lot in advance about the design of the cake and I showed her multiple photos of the design I wanted. I wanted flowers as a cake topper, so I made sure that we ordered extra flowers so she had enough flowers (that matched the bouquets) to decorate the cake. Now, our wedding colors were black, ivory and gold/champagne and we did all white flowers–tulips, carnations and rannuculus.
What did she put on top of the cake?! A bright pink Gerbera Daisy!! WHAT? When I saw the cake I was so mad, because I had made sure that she had the right flowers for the cake. The cake tasted great, but everytime I see a photo of it, it annoys me. My husband even altered one photo we like in Photoshop to make it white. 😉
Post # 12
My aunt, bless her heart, asked if I would want to wear her dress and have it fitted to my size. That’s great and fine and I’ll even look at it to be nice, but she got married in 1994, the era of the big and poufy. ::sigh::
Post # 13
Ohhh I so hear ya. Two of my aunts volunteered their dresses a la Curlysue. Very nice, but- they got the dress they wanted, taht wasn’t dated- why shouldn’t I. Future Mother-In-Law has been the WORST, so we stopped asking her opinion/saying what we might do and started saying what we already decided on (non-negotiable.) Even down to she complained for a while that we should get married in Fall 09 instead of March 2010. (We need FI’s xmas bonus and year end bonuses!)