Post # 1
I’ve had friends and family grab of my hand to look at my engagement ring, it’s not that surprising. But today, on my day off, I went in to work to make up a meeting that I missed due to our wedding/honeymoon. This was with one of the “higher-ups” at our hospital. I handed her a paper across her desk and she grabbed my hand to look at my ring. I wasn’t offended or anything, she was very nice, but am I the only one who thinks it’s weird to grab someone’s hand, when the only time you talk is for business or idle small talk? I just can’t picture myself grabbing the hand of a near-stranger to look at their ring.
It’s not really a big deal, I’m just curious if this happens to anyone else?
Post # 2
To ask to see your ring is one thing bit to actually grab someone’s hand especially if you don’t know then is strange. Just last week I was at a gas station and the store clerk grabbed my hand to see my ring. I do go into this store a few times a week and have small talk with this woman, so maybe that’s what made her feel like it was ok. It was strange, and I don’t see myself doing that to someone unless it’s a family member or close friend .
Post # 3
One person, my former supervisor. I thought it rude but she is very intrusive so it wasn’t surprising
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2016 - Long Island, NY
My boss does this, but she usually says “let me see the rock!” and just doesn’t wait for an answer before grabbing.
It doesn’t bother me in the slightest. I absolutely love it when people want to see my ring, grab away at my arm all you want! 😛
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2015 - Ritz Carlton Laguna Niguel
I think it’s flattering but also weird. I don’t want strangers grabbing me/ touching me at all even if it’s to see my ring. You can “see” thingss without touching them. Just my opinion though. Unless you’re a close friend maybe don’t grab me.
Post # 7
It’s happened to me, I’m always flattered that anyone would care enough to look 🙂
Post # 8
I had a complete stranger, an older woman in fancy clothes, recognize my center stone as a padparadsha while I was walking in the mall. She grabbed my hand and squealed like a schoolgirl, then showed me her pad. RHR, which was bigger than mine but with less saturated color, and told me this long story of how her husband traveled to the UK to find her a pad. It was weird and definitely a boundary violation, but I listened to her story and admired how soft and pretty her ring looked.
Post # 9
This happened to me last week. A girl in my nursing class (who I happen not to be particularly find of) walked over and grabbed both of my hands to look at my ring while I was in the middle of a conversation with someone else. I tried to hide the facial expression I’m sure I had, but I don’t know how well it worked. Oh well, c’est la vie.
Post # 10
They will stop grabbing your hand when you get pregnant, then they will rub your belly 😉 hehe
Post # 11
I haven’t had anyone actually grab my hand but I’ve had a lot of people comment on it when they catch a glimpse of it and ask to see it. And when I put my hand out, they sort of hold my hand to look at it. The weirdest one was that one of my coworkers that I don’t particularly like/trust asked to try it on.
I pretended my fingers were swollen and that I couldn’t get it off past my knuckles.
Haha! You’re so right. It’ll just get weirder and weirder. Talk about violation of personal space.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
People do this to me all the time at work. I wait tables and people will always grab it and examine it while saying how pretty it is. Honestly, I think they’re trying to see if it’s a diamond or not because what kind of waitress has a sizeable diamond? Whatever. I let them think whatever they wanna think.
Post # 13
I’m guilty of admiring people rings…what can I say? I love diamonds! I don’t touch people unless they stuck their hand right in my face but I have yet to meet a woman that isn’t happy to gush about their ring. 😉
Post # 14
it’s happened to me a few times. I hate it. I’ve got an old injury on my left hand that I tend to be pretty protective of, and some people have grabbed my hand really quite hard to look at my ring, w/o any idea how close they’re coming to really hurting me. It actually made me kind of nervous to talk about my engagement with some people.
Post # 15
The cashier at a convenience store did this to me! A complete stranger! Did not appreciate.