Post # 1

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Buzzing bee
How do I handle this? I just got a Facebook message from someone who is invited, but apparently hasn’t received the invite yet (any day she should). She asked “where is the wedding being held? _______, ______, his children, and I would like to come.”
Post # 2

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Worker bee
So was she invited or is she assuming?
Post # 3

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Buzzing bee
teatreaforme: i guess this is assuming, but the persona family she’s assuming is invited lives out of state and has not visited or talked to the family in years. she is apparently visiting there now, so anything I say will immediately be relayed.
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
teatreaforme: she was invited. But since she is out of town she hasn’t gotten her invite yet.
Post # 5

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Busy bee
In my view, you can safely ignore facebook messages.
Post # 6

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Buzzing bee
blue_cat77: lol! I was totally going to do that, but felt a little guilty for it XD
i am just blown away that so many people assume they are invited/other people are invited. This is not the first time someone I don’t know or barely know has made a comment regarding their invite!
Post # 7

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Bumble bee
- Wedding: June 2016 - A View West
Slingshot: that is very rude of her…i have a few friends…well my fiance’s friends who have mentioned that they would be bringing friends with them…umm..No! LOL I modified my rsvp’s so they specifically say the # of people. Hopefully that’ll avoid the issue of “extras”
Post # 8

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Buzzing bee
Natalie101985: I thought about doing that, but then I thought, “we’ll surely if I address the person the invite is for directly, they won’t expect to being 4 additional people!!!”
Post # 10

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Blushing bee
This also happened to me! One of my close friends who will be flying in started talking about what hotel he and his boyfriend would stay at! Awkward because I had no intention of inviting his boyfriend of like 3 months! Whom I’ve never met at that!
Lol it’s funny how many people just assume they are invited!
Post # 11

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Buzzing bee
futuremrsguzman: how did you handle it?
I am really unsure of what to do. I can ignore the message, but then when she gets hers, what if she just tells him the info? Lol or assumes he’s invited and adds his name?
Post # 12

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Honey bee
Just respond to her that she will be getting an invitaiton, but the other family can not be accomodated. The truth … the sooner the better.
Post # 13

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Blushing bee
Slingshot:
At the time I ignored it as I haven’t sent out invites yet but I’m asking one of our mutual friends to let everyone (i.e. him) know that unless a guest is at least living with their SO then no-one is getting plus ones!
Also, I plan to make it very clear on the invitation that the invite is just for him!