Post # 1
I don’t know if this has happened to other people, but on a FEW occasions now I’ve had people either say, “We’re going to have some much fun at Matt and Ashley’s wedding” or “Are you excited about their wedding?” to someone NOT invited… or had someone in the family say something like what my grandma just wrote (sorry for the all caps, apparently she likes yelling in emails):
I TOLD SUE THAT THEY WERE INVITED TO YOUR WEDDING…..EVEN THO I KNOW THAT BILL AND SANDY CAN’T COME. ANYWAY SHE CALLED TONITE AND THEY DON’T HAVE AN INVITATION SO THEY AREN’T SURE. IT’S FINE, EITHER WAY…..BUT IF THEY ARE EXPECTED, SHE WANTS TO MAKE A RES. AT THE HOTEL….
Ugh. Seriously? I don’t WANT to invite anymore people (especially people who will come and that I don’t even remember), in fact I want LESS people to come to the damn wedding.
I’m so over it. I just want it to be after the wedding so I can look at the pictures of it. I don’t really care for living it right now, pictures would suffice.
Post # 3
We’re a long ways out from our wedding, but I do know (somewhat) where you’re coming from. My Future Mother-In-Law invited some people that live across the country to our wedding two days after we were engaged. We hadn’t even made our OWN guest list yet. Needless to say, my advice to you (and what I’m probably going to have to do with my FMIL) is to reply back to your grandmother saying something along the lines of, “All of our invitations have been sent so anyone who hasn’t recieved an invitation wasn’t supposed to recieve one. We’re trying to keep the wedding to close family and friends and didn’t reserved seats for Bill and Sandy. I appologize for any miscommunication as to who is invited and who is not, however once we recieve the RSVP’s, I’d be more than willing to let you know who’s attending! Love, msashleymarie”. Though, I could be wrong. 🙂 Best of luck, I feel for you.
Post # 4
We had a small wedding where we invited spouses but no dates or other “plus one”s. All of my BMs were aware of this and on board. Then one of them started dating a guy about 6 months before the wedding and within 2 weeks she was talking about how great it would be for him to meet everyone at the wedding…. So I reminded her of our wishes and the conversations we’d had.
Try to nip problems in the bud. And if someone invites people that aren’t on your list, make it their job to explain their mistake.
Post # 5
In her defense, it wasn’t totally her fault. My father told me to send invitations to two of her brothers, but never mentioned her sister. So, oh well. Even though I don’t remember her and haven’t seen her in 10 years, I guess she’s coming.
Such is life. I’m just at the point where I am completely over planning and being everyone’s go to person about e-ve-re-thing. 35 days, 35 days, 35, days… I think I can, I think I can… haha.