(Closed) people inviting themselves to the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Glasgowbound:  Most Bees will tell you keep everything off FB regarding your wedding. I posted a few things and I had people invite themselves to be part of the bridal party.

Just to be kind, those who have told  you “I’ll start saving”  I would PM them and kindly tell them that the guest list has been decided and you are keeping the wedding small. Howver you run the risk of people asking/begging for an invite.

I smiled and kept quiet about our wedding. We sent our invites to those who were invited and when someone asked I would say “Im sorry but due to budget our guest list has bee decided” or “We’ve reached the max number in our venue”.

Good luck! It happens to us all. If you want more reponses, post this in the “Etiquette” catagory.

Post # 5
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665 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think because you are getting married in a specific place for a specific reason, you have everyright to say “we’re having an intimate affair with just very close friends and family” I had 2 sort of friends that were having a joint wedding at an all inclusive resort in Mexico, I said I would like to come, is there anyone who needs to share a room…etc. I didn’t end up going but the reason I thought it was ok to invite myself was that its was a resort with tons of people already there, whats to say I wasn’t just another random guest. Maybe you can just hope they won’t end up saving the money, and if they do well you must mean alot to them, thats alot of money to spend on a going to a co-workers wedding. Give it time, they will naturally fall off list.

Post # 6
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3266 posts
Sugar bee

I wouldn’t say anything, but it is polite to write something back like ‘Oh Sally, you are such a card”.  Or something similar.

I think the lack of an invitation is all the wake up call people need.  If someone starts talking to you about booking flights or anything then follow up with them privately.  But I suspect most people are just (awkwardly) expressing their excitement, and aren’t actually expecting an invitation.

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