(Closed) People inviting themselves to your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’ve been through this with my cousin and his kids. We’re not having kids – we already have 80 guests and he has 5 children – the youngest of which is about 2. A few times the older children have mentioned coming to the wedding – even though the invitation was addressed to my cousin & his wife only, and they have been told by my mum and my nan that we’re not inviting children. This morning (6 days out from the wedding) he rang and asked if he could bring his two older children. My mum explained that everything’s already organised, numbers have been confirmed with the caterer and that we already have 80 guests and our budget is maxed.

Blame it on the budget, people are usually pretty understanding.

Post # 4
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294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oooh. Tricky.  Can your mom run interference for you? I ask because I was in the same boat with my MOHs parents.  We’ve been friends since we were 11 and call each other’s parents Mom and Dad too. But her parents aren’t invited (for a number of reasons).  I hated to chicken out, but my Maid/Matron of Honor handled it.

Post # 5
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46680 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Send invitations to the people you want to have at your wedding and that you can afford to have.

If she brings it up again in the interim, grab that opportunity to start letting her know that you have learned that you may not be able to invite everyone you would like to, that you will have to limit numbers due to your budget and large family.

Post # 6
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Someone told me that they wanted to come last weekend. I am about  6 weeks out, I am not adding anyone else to the guest list. The lady told me that she would’ve came to my shower, but she didn’t know about it. I was thinking “Yeah, that is because you were not invited (she is not a wedding guest either)”. I thought I was pass this point. Plus, an old friend that I was close to in the past asked my Future Mother-In-Law about an invite. I told my Future Mother-In-Law that I was not inviting her because she has avoided my phone calls and our friendship was one sided.

At this point, I usually just smile and nod my head. lol  But, I would just tell her that you are not having a large wedding (or something along the lines of that).

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