(Closed) People keep getting engaged after us and married before us :/

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Just the opposite actually.  My FI’s Future Sister-In-Law (ie: his brother’s finacee) is super pissed at us for getting engaged after/married before them.  They’ve been engaged for almost 3 years, and had yet to set a date by the time we got engaged.  I had no interest in waiting around for them to piss or get off the pot, and since we’re eloping anyway, it shouldn’t take anything away from them.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I KNOW EXCATLY HOW YOU FEEL!!!!  I was just talking my Fiance about that last night 5 of my friends were engaged after me and have already gotten married.. and my Fiance had to remind me that we didnt have to prove anything, so we took our time with our engagment to enjoy it and have the spot light on us longer. 16 months seems like a long time but we are at the almost 2 more month mark. And i am getting the wedding i have been waiting all my life for! So in the end I am glad we waited and didnt rush into anything!

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I know that has to be tough but dont rush it! you are soo close, enjoy these last couple months of engagement, married life is great but there is just something so magical about the engagement period.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@FutureHarp:

Heyyyy we’re both in KATY, TX…Heeyyyyyy lady lol…ok back to the topic…So my BFF and other close friends are getting married before me and was engaged after me and all I hear is “they getting married BEFORE YOU?” umm yeah and sooooo? I dont get it. It doesnt bother me but it does bother me when people make a big deal out of use getting married AFTER them. I dont care but I can understand how you maybe are like “dang, when it MY turn” and that you are anxious to get to YOUR day.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It doesn’t bother me too much when a couple who got engaged after us gets married before us. I was, however, quite pissed with a friend who got engaged only a month and a half ago, and decided to plop his wedding into the weekend before ours. It irritated me and my Fiance because we have the same group of friends as this guy, and we’d tried really hard to space our wedding apart from the other weddings that had already been scheduled for this summer in our group of friends. Annoying!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well we’re young so it’s only happened a couple times to us, and we’ll be engaged 18 months when we get married. One of the couples were our friends who had been dating 7 years, since they were 15, and they had a 5 month engagement- but it wasn’t a big deal since they’d been together forever, lol. The sad thing was, their wedding was beautiful- but a ton of things she did were EXACTLY like I had been planning my wedding! And we had never discussed wedding stuff at all, apparently we just have similar tastes. I was pretty upset but Fiance and a couple of my BMs told me I was being silly, that ours was a year out and no one would remember the details that would be the same. I’m just hoping no one thinks I’m copying her flowers, reception decorations, music, and favors! lol. It was almost like attending a preview of my wedding… oh well, that’s life.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yup, that is us to a t!  My FIs family all got engaged after and married before (we also did a 15 month engagement).  The hardest was his twin who said to us she wanted to get married before we did.  I don’t know if she was serious or not, but her 1st date was 3 months to the day.  I’ve definitely let it go since then, it’s kind of fun to have so many people in the same life stage as us, and since his family is 7 hour drive from us I don’t get to see them too often so it gave us the excuse to keep going back so it was a blessing in disguise.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Fiance and I will have been engaged for 27 months when we finally get married. My sister got engaged this April and married last weekend. It kind of sucks but at the same time, it’s finally getting Fiance to take our wedding planning seriously!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It is annoying. One of my friends got engaged a couple of months ago and I was really excited for her and then she went and got married like a week later. Just a small family thing, but I didn’t even know she was getting married that quick. Then another friend of mine got kinda proposed to after about a month of dating this guy but he didn’t have a ring yet and and she hasn’t said anything to anyone else about it. He didn’t officially propose yet, just told her to show him what style ring she wants and basically said he’d get her one and propose. But every time I talk to her she calls herself engaged and says that as soon as he comes back in town they wanna go and get married quick at the courthouse and have a wedding next year sometime. That annoys me because I told her a while ago that my fiancé and I were planning to do that within the next couple of months so he could put me on his insurance (I don’t have any) and take care of some medical issues before our big wedding. It’s like she’s in a race to get married before I do. I have another friend who got engaged maybe 3 weeks ago and she’s getting married I think a month after i am but she asked me a couple of days ago how much planning I’ve gotten done and basically threw it in my face that she’s got a ton more planned than I have already and that she’s got so much booked and how she’s gonna be able to just relax for a few months.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Haha, yeah. We were engaged for almost 2.5 years so this happened a lot. The last people to get engaged/married before us were Prince William and Kate Middleton. It was kinda funny to me.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I felt the same way, but I’m glad Fiance and I waited as long as we did. In the end, it’s not really going to matter that much. Sure, they were married first, and we were engaged first. In the end, we are all MARRIED. A couple months after the wedding it’ll all be forgotten (plus, you’ll have married friends you can relate to/go to for advice/give advice to).

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@swanks4tw:  I am!!!  People I know have met, dated and gotten married since we got engaged.  It’s a little insane.  Some people have been married for 2+ years.  Everyone I know that got engaged after I did is getting married before me, even if it’s only a week.  It’s kind of annoying but at the same time, we chose a date that worked best for our schedule and I like it!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I hear you! Our engagement was a little over two years. But it was well worth it. I still feel like our wedding was better than all of the other weddings we attended during our engagement. We were really able to go to other weddings and reflect on what we liked and what we didn’t as guests.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I forgot about this – one girl got engaged 3 weeks after me, got married, got pregnant, and had the baby before I even had my photographer. She just had her 2nd child this week, so she dang near had two kids before my wedding.

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