(Closed) People may need to stand

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3112 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@faeriegirl05:  how long is the ceremony? There’s no way to get extra chairs? I’d be frustrate standing for a long time in heels. Not sure on the wording…

Post # 4
5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018


The chairs out there

are not for the young or the fair,

but for those who have earned them most.

(Please stand if you are able)

Post # 5
384 posts
Helper bee

My sister in law did this and it was posted on her website, it just stated something like due to limitations there will not be enough seats for everyone so please be considerate of women, children and elderly. It was completely fine and it also stated that the ceremony would only be 15mins…

Post # 9
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Due to limited seating, please allow older guests and children to occupy the seats before taking one.  We really appreciate your cooperation. 

Something like that? 

Post # 10
7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

There is limited seating
At this very brief meeting
Could you give us a hand?
If you’re able, please stand. 


Post # 11
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would make sure the wording isn’t just “seats for the elderly and children.”  I look young and healthy, but I have a pain condition that makes standing for long stretches difficult.  With a sign like that, I would feel really awkward about taking a seat even if I needed one that day, and certain I’d get dirty looks.  So I’d limit it to “please stand if you’re able,” rather than specifying who the chairs are meant for.

Post # 12
8919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@faeriegirl05:  What a bummer! 30 minutes is a long time to make people stand though — could you consider shortening the ceremony? 

Post # 13
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Do you need to make a sign?  Can you make it the job of the ushers/groomsmen and maybe spread the word about the issue before hand?

Post # 14
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Good luck. I’m getting married this weekend and my coordinator just told me that because of the rain the ground would be too soft for chairs for an outside ceremony. So now we either have to have an outside ceremony with NO chairs at all or one inside where guests would be at the tables theyd be having dinner at. UGH

Post # 15
6291 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@mistress_anne:  Totally agree. I had moderate-severe chronic pelvic and back pain a couple of years ago which made standing for long periods really difficult. I would have felt really awkward sitting with a sign that specified elderly/young people. 


Post # 16
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

What an absolute nightmare. I like the suggestions of PPs though.

I would be so angry with my venue, if this is their mistake.

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