(Closed) People may need to stand

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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3339 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Umm, wow.  That’s a huge problem.  Can you change the venue for the ceremony?  Have you already received RSVPs?  Lots of people may not come and then it could work itself out on its own.  We invited 109 and there are only 50 coming.  Jeez, I hope it works out for you.

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve no idea why anyone in good health would complain about standing for 30 minutes… I mean, bridesmaids, the couple, the groomsmen, the officiant (who is in many cases an old guy) all stand for at least 30 minutes…

If you’re elderly, or have a reason why you can’t stand (and there are plenty of legitimate reasons out there) then of course you should be able to sit, but otherwise I think it is just a good old case of the lazys to complain about standing (yes, even in heels!) for 30 minutes if you’re healthy – No it might not be the MOST FUN you’ve ever had, but its 30 minutes… seriously. Also, older children can stand for 30 minutes, what the heck people. Toddlers or babies that need to be held can be in their mother or father’s lap while sitting, otherwise, any able person should stand.

It is a sad day indeed when people, without cause, complain about standing for a mere 30 minutes.

Hell, I stand for longer than 30 minutes in line for Walmart, or at the airport, or even the bank when it is really busy…

I’d have a sign that says “Due to limited seating, please consider standing if you’re able. Thank you.”

Post # 19
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1833 posts
Buzzing bee

Is there any chance of changing your venue?  It isn’t just for 30 minutes.  People will arrive 15-20 minutes early, then the 30 minute ceremony, then the milling around wishing the couple well, etc.  It will most likely be a bit over an hour and that is tough in heels or flats.  Especially when you standing basicaly in one spot.  It is NOT lazy to have difficulty doing that regardless of your health or age.

While it will seem old to many of you (I swear we aren’t) Darling Husband and I are 53 and 55 respectively.  His back is in horrid shape and I have degenerative disk disease and a bad hip.  (Really, I swear we aren’t old, I just have a sucky gene pool).  Neither of us would take a chair out of fear we would leave someone else standing who needs it.  We would not be doing well at the end of the ceremony.  DH would likely have to cut our night short as his back is to the point of serious surgery and his dr has made him put it off as long as he can tolerate it because the surgery may fix it or make it worse.

Is there any chance at all of changing venues?

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I might have this same problem. We are getting married in a park and they only provide 50 benches. So depending on how many people come and how many people sit on one bench.. some people might have to stand. I agree with what others have said, make a simple sign that explains the limited seating and please stand if able.

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