(Closed) People need to mind their own business! (warning: vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3204 posts
Sugar bee

I wouldn’t invite her. She seems like a busybody that just tries to stir up trouble.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree it’s annoying, but it sounds like she just has your best interests at heart.  I agree it’s not a big deal to post bikini pictures on facebook, but it sounds like she’s just concerned that it could affect you adversely… it doesn’t sound like she’s running around telling this to everyone, just your mom who she hopes will pass on the message to you.  I think you’re within your rights to block and defriend her, but I’m not sure it’s as big of a deal as you’re making it out to be.

I think you should still invite her, especially if you already sent her a save the date!  I don’t think this is worth changing relationships over.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sounds like someone needs a hobby or 3.  Sheesh. Running to tell someone else’s mommy that they wore a bikini in a FB pic? Seriously?  Is she aware that there are actual problems in the world?

Post # 8
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If your church preaches heavily about modesty, I can understand her concern since some people feel that bikinis are immodest. And even though you’re older than her daughter, I think that all she saw was “if that was my daughter, I’d want to know” without thinking about the ages at play. When her daughter is in her 30s wearing a bikini, she’d probably still flip over it. So to her, it was a HUGE DEAL omg scandal, because clearly her point of view/opinion is different than yours and your mother’s. I don’t know anyone who would freak out about bathing suit pics, but then again I did grow up in Florida and beach culture is the norm out there. So I’d just be confused if someone reacted like that!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would definitely not invite her. And I would probably be a little more than pissed at my mom if she allowed some woman to run her mouth about me like that. She should have told her to mind her own business and leave her adult daughter alone. What’s the big deal anyway, modest or not, it’s a beach and we’re not Victorians…

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@agirlwithdreams7: Good for her! This is another shining example of why they should never have let old people on fbook 😉

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

Yeah, I once had a cousin of my husband’s get up in arms because I had “men/women for friendship/whatever I can get” on facebook and the “whatever I can get” was just for laughs. She told a crazy aunt who told his dad and he had the nerve to actually ask me about it. He’s pretty Internet unsavvy so I guess he wouldn’t have known anything about Facebook, but his young cousin should have at least had a clue!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Well, you know what they say about Facebook…anything you post there may come back to haunt you later.  It may seem harmless at the time, but some people may find a certain post offensive or concerning.  I usually don’t post anything too revealing or too personal there – you just never know what kind of impression you’re giving out to people who may not know you well such as your neighbors, your friends’ parents, your pastor, your employer….For example, if you have like dozens of bikini photos on the site it may convey an overtly sexualized image.  In any case, be careful of what you post and use the privacy features if you don’t want certain people viewing your photos or posts – and this advice applies to anyone!

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