(Closed) People not happy with their rings

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Why does it matter if they want to change it after 5 months (or 5 minutes) or you want to change it after 5 years?

I don’t really agree with you. I think people can appreciate the sentiment while still wanting a piece of jewelry they feel compliments their style.

Fiance presented me with both the engagement ring and a wedding band. I did not care for the wedding band (but thought it was incredibly sweet that he had picked one out). I’m so happy he wasn’t bothered that I’d like to swap it out.

I will say – if someone gets their ring, I would advise wearing it for a few weeks before making any decisions. I liked my ring from the beginning, but now I LOVE it. It grew on me as I wore it more.

Post # 4
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s between that individual and their FI/DH. Doesn’t bother me at all.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Yeah I don’t know that I agree with you either.  What does timing matter if you are going to switch it out/ “upgrade” it anyway.  Five minutes or five years, random weekday or anniversary, none of those things matter when the action is exactly the same. 

 

That being said I think the smartest men either find out exactly what their women want or propose with a “placer ring” and then go real ring shopping after. 

Post # 7
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231 posts
Helper bee

I love my man just as much as anyone,,I picked out my ring with him,,Ordered it online,lovely ring,,it is just to small on my hand ,,I dont like it and never wear it,,one day I will get a new ring one that i will love,,in the meantime to me its a ring,, it does not prove anything in the love department..

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

my hubby picked out my ring by himself…we never talked about engagement or ring styles prior to that…while what he gave me is beautiful, it’s totally not my style. we are currently looking for a new ring together, we were married in june.  He has no problem with this.  The ring itself isn’t his love for me & getting a new set won’t make his proposal or our marriage or our love for each other any less real…we’re women, we love pretty jewelry (;

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

So, it’s ok to switch out a small diamond, but not change your ring to a halo? 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Bunny82:  My brother proposed with a diamond necklace so that my SIL could pick out her own ring. So lucky SIL got two pieces of engagement jewelry!

Post # 14
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607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think the people that write these posts are the ones that get their dream ring and love it forever, lol.  And you state that you adore your ring, so why are you judging people who don’t?  YOU have never been in the situation to be less than satisfied with your e-ring.  Personally, I think of my e-ring as a piece of jewelry.  It’s something pretty to wear that I look at for 8-12 hours a day while sitting at my desk typing at the computer.  I see my hands constantly….I better LOVE my ring and everything about it if I have to stare at all day long!  To the FI’s who get offended if their ladies aren’t completely happy with the ring that they picked out…suck it up!  YOU don’t have to look at it all day long, every day.  I wouldn’t want you to look at something you didn’t like all day every day, so why should you expect me to just accept it because you gave it to me?  I would rather someone tell me if they weren’t completely happy w/ a gift I gave them and get them something they liked better than to just grin and bear it for the sole reason that I gave it to them.  That applies to everything, and an e-ring is just an extreme case because it’s a gift that is expected to be worn all the time, I can’t just put it in the closet and forget about it.  For that reason alone the guy’s first priority should be that it’s perfect for his lady and she’s totally happy with it.  I don’t get why guys are so offended when they pick out something that is not the style or taste of their fiance then expect their fiance to just love it and never say anything.  Sorry, maybe I’m too practical, but these threads annoy me (clearly 😛 ).  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t understand why bees pounce on a bee who wants to upgrade their ring. I don’t get why it is such a problem. I happen to love my ring, but if I didn’t love it, I would like to think my husband would have understood if I wanted to upgrade it. I don’t think it has anything to do with my love for him. As long as you aren’t trying to put your man in the poor house, I say go for it 😉

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

i completely agree with you i think that people should concentrate more on the marriage and be happy for a gift that their SO searched high and low for. he gave it to u from his heart and u should accept it with urs

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