Post # 1
I know it is bad form to invite girls to the shower who are not invited to the wedding….but is there really anything you can do about it if the host added them to the shower invite list? I figure they will just choose not to come if they don’t want to…
I actually don’t even know these girls (may have met one or two of them once), but they are friends of the hostess.
Post # 3
this is happening to me too. My maid of honor said “your other bridesmaids invited these girls is that ok”. Then I feel like a giant jerk because I haven’t invited them to the wedding and our mutal friend (my bridesmaid) thinks they’re invited to the wedding.
I feel your pain…
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I don’t even know why the host invited girls you don’t really know. I thought these things are supposed to be an intimate affair…
Post # 6
I would talk to the hostess and let her know that you are uncomfortable about people who you do not know and aren;t invited to the wedding have been invited to the shower. It is pretty rude of her to put you in this situation.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
@NavyBride2013: Normally I would be like, uh oh. But this faux pas is from your hostess, not you. I would just shrug it off. Just because the hostess took it upon herself to invite people without asking you, does not mean that you need to feel obligated to invite them to the wedding, or feel bad about the fact that they don’t have one.
Post # 9
@NavyBride2013: I am having a very small wedding. A friend of mine is throwing me a shower even though she knows she isn’t invited to the wedding. She knows this and so do all my other friends who are invited and they still are thrilled to be a part of this celebration.
Post # 10
Yeah, I think the hostess is just excited to have a party in her new house and wants to invite her close friends. It is just kind of weird that I don’t even know them. They actually know my fiance (they all work together), so they aren’t total strangers, but I still feel strange looking like I invited people not on the guest list.
I think since the invites went out already, it’s too late to retract them; nor do I want to make the hostess feel bad by telling her she shouldn’t have invited them (what will that solve?). I think I am going to suggest to a mutual friend that she should tell these girls not to bring a gift and that they are just invited b/c she wanted to throw a party…
As for an intimate affair, these aren’t my closest friends — it is being hosted in the city I am moving to, and it’s all the wives of my fiance’s co-workers. I am pretty good friends with a few and haven’t even met some of the others (but those girls are on the invite list).
Post # 11
don’t worry about it. your Maid/Matron of Honor invited them, not you. you don’t have to invite them to the wedding.
Post # 12
well, I should clarify that it’s not my Maid/Matron of Honor hosting, or any of my bridesmaids, just a friend from this group of FI’s co-workers’ wives.