Post # 1
Is it just me or are some of the women on these boards very quick to attack and say some really nasty things when people are asking for advice? I just feel like sometimes the name calling and one-lined answers saying how the poster is wrong and (insert some sort of negative adjective here) aren’t really helpful at all. There’s always a nice way to say something in disagreement without flat out being b*tchy about it.
Anyone else seem to find this the case??
Post # 3
LOL. I am an ex-knot frequenter…so here I don’t even notice what others would consider “rude” on this forum.
I find that even most of the honesty here isn’t too bad.
Post # 4
Some people don’t sugar coat their replies. There’s nothing wrong with a dose of reality. To be honest, most users give pretty great advice whether it’s what the OP wants to hear or not.
Oh, and these threads normally don’t end well.
Post # 5
On this site??? Not at all. I very very very rarely come accross snarky comments here….Now if you type your way over to The Notty Site….(I’m sure everyone knows where I mean)….THOSE brides are nasty nasty nasty!!!!!! ANYTHING you post, they will tear you up. Thats why I only use and bring my business to this site! lol!
Post # 6
I’m sure there are some posters like that. But I don’t think there are many here. I think a lot of people on message boards like this tend to be too sensitive though, in my opinion. If you’re asking for advice in a public forum, don’t get all upset and defensive if the advice you recieve isn’t in line with what you want to hear. And just because advice is given doesn’t mean you have to take it – but you’re the one who asked for it. Also, if you post something that is ignorant or distasteful, don’t be surprised when someone calls you out on it.
Post # 7
Often times if someone doesn’t get the response or amount of sympathy for a situaiton that they want, then everyone automatically is being rude or mean. Some people are blunt, and sometimes tone is hard to pick up on the internet.
When and if things get heated I seen these post get shut down fairly frequently. SSome people are rude and that part of being on the internet. I think people need to grow a thicker skin or don’t post to these boards if they can’t handle it or going to take everything personally
Post # 8
@shaeshae18: I would agree with you to a certain degree. I feel like a lot of women on here express themselves in a way that if they disagree with someone they are compeltely right and the other person is completely wrong. I think one of the hardest things to do is to express your opinion without being “bitchy” if you disagree with someone. I’ve been disappointed on here a few times because I asked a question or for advice and got very little constructive opinions back. It’s the risk you take with opening yourself up on a forum like this. It’s hard, but you have to ignore the snarky and take the positive from it when you can.
Post # 9
the hardest part about posting stuff on the internet is the fact that EVERYTHING can be misunderstood one way or another. But I do agree there have been times I’ve seen a couple of posters get snippy and I’m like OMG I SO DIDNT MEAN TO OFFEND!!! PLEAST DON’T EAT ME! it probably is just because of what I just said.. there is NO way to tell what a person’s actual tone is.
Post # 10
I think people read it that way when the OP gets responses they do not want to hear, or people are not agreeing with them. Everyone has an opinion and sometimes people just don’t like to hear it. I also think sometimes its the way you read it that can sound rude but it may not be, the way you interpret something can be way off.
Post # 11
OP, I may be going out on a limb here but are you referring to your post from earlier about your bridesmaids being “selfish” for not wanting to attend your Destination Wedding on Thanksgiving? If so, I read through the PP’s and there wasn’t a shred of nastiness. Just truth that I happen to agree with completely.
Post # 12
Honestly sometimes I think people sugar-coat things too much on here. I am a weird person who is straight to the point so I find it annoying when people type humungous paragraphs when they could easily say it in a sentence. Of course there is the occassional mean bee…but nothing you can do about that…except flag them of course!
Post # 13
@UpstateCait: Just wanted to share that I could use someone as direct as you in my real life. I really like that you don’t sugarcoat things…I wish I could be better about that! 😀
Post # 15
WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT, ARE YOU CRAZY??????!!!! QUICK TO ATTACK, HOW DARE YOU SAY THAT! I AM FLAGGING THIS PRONTO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, I notice there are some that attack quickly or report quickly. But the pros outweight those cons. It’s a message board, and I do agree with the others up there that this is by far the BEST wedding board or any board I ever have seen.
I love tweddingbee!!
Post # 16
I think most of the responses on here are very helpful. Every once in a while, I’ll see one that will make me shake my head, but most of the time everyone is very friendly. I think a lot of times when you hear advice that goes against what you want to hear, you can read it as more “negative” or as an attack, even if it really isn’t.