(Closed) People on WB are wonderful, but what is with this sense of entitlement? (closed)

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


Post # 4
983 posts
Busy bee


Post # 5
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am with you on this one too. As I followed from the post we were both just on, how frustrating. Such depression over a damn ring. 

Post # 6
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

If you are going to have to wear something for the rest of your life and your paretner spent a crapton of money on it, what is wrong with wanting to love it? Now that doesn’t mean that one should expoect her partner to spend more than can be afforded. But if it’s in the budget, then whatever.

Post # 8
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

By The Way, you’re going to get flamed to hell and back with people conviced that you wrote this about them.

Post # 9
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Total agreement.  Some people get too caught up in the material aspects of wedding planning, it often seems people forget the whole point of it all. Marrying the man you love so you can spend your lives together. 

Post # 10
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Adams_bee:  +1




I get that everyone wants what they want.  I get everyone has opinions.  You are so right that some have lost the meaning of the engagement ring, or rather, maybe everyone has their own opinion of what the ring means to them, if anything at all.  My ring symbolizes my Fiance and I’s commitment to each other, our love for each other and our want to marry to each other.  “This” is about our love for each other, not the size and quality of my ring.  I love my ring, which he picked by himself, and I would love it not matter what.  Why??  Because he picked it to show his love and want to be with me forever.  It’s the thought, not the price or size.  Not here to upset anyone, and I know others may not agree with me, and I get that.  I, too, hope that others that have lost that or may not see that meaning, find it also before its too late.  Just my opinion.  That’s all 🙂 




Post # 11
9198 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Everyone’s different.  Let’s not judge each other.

Post # 13
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I will be the first one to say a rock is a rock is a rock regardless of how sparkly, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting a pretty ring. I think that if you demand a 2 carat diamond thats way out of budget then you are out of line. Or if you refuse a proposal without the perfect ring ect.


Rings are supposed to be a symbol of your… i dont know… couplehood? Shouldnt it be something both parties like and feel happy with? I do feel entitled to that. I don’t care how much it costs, but I do want it to be something Joshua and I both love.


And to be fair posting about your ring on the ring board makes perfect sense. If you were to go over to diy or money and say things like “my center stone is too small!” Then you shouldnt get upset at the flack you will get.

Post # 14
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Eh…. I think you’re making a lot of unfounded assumptions. Just because someone wants to wear a ring she actually likes doesn’t mean she’s MORE obsessed with that than with spending the rest of her life with someone, or that she’s entitled, or shallow. It often just means she’s particular/persnickety about what she wears, whether it’s jewelry, clothes, shoes, or whatever.

Like in my case, I know that I have particular tastes and that I am, rightly or wrongly, extremely difficult to buy jewelry for – and if my Fiance had tried, he’d have failed. Fortunately he knows that about me and doesn’t mind it, so he proposed without a ring and I picked out my own. Not every guy has the awareness to realize that about their future wife, though. 

Post # 15
2604 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Adams_bee:  +1

I get so turned off when I see a woman complaining because the ring she received wasn’t her “dream” ring.  Or pouts because the rock isn’t big enough and she’s worried how it will compare to her friends.  Or wants to decide how much he should be spending on her.  

Or she posts how she’s dissapointed because she didn’t get her “dream” proposal or it wasn’t “special” enough.  As if the man you supposedly love asking you to marry him isn’t special enough. 

I doubt any of us want a ring we really don’t like and we all want a little romance but…geez people.  Get a grip and prioritize.  And, give some thought to how all this looks from the guy’s perspective.

I feel quite confident I wouldn’t want to marry someone who expected me to jump through hoops to make her dreams come true as if what I want or prefer just shouldn’t matter at all.

There was a post on here not long ago that nearly made me fall out of my chair.  A bride who addmitted she was sporting a ring that cost many thousands of dollars was put out because her man had chosen an “expensive” ring – one that cost a fraction of hers. 


Post # 16
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I somewhat agree.


To me, though – there are 2 differant types of women.


The first one is a woman who wants a very large carat size.. because she feels entitled/wants to keep up with family or friends, or for some reason, thinks carat size = how much he loves her.


But, then there’s the women who are just very particular about the jewelry they wear. They really want to have something they love. This doesn’t have to mean it’s expensive.


I fall under the second category. I never wanted a huge rock.. nobody around here has anything over a carat, so it would just be silly, nor do we have the money for it right now. I picked out a very budget friendly diamond bridal set [$419 with insurance]. He proposed with a ring his mother had given him specifically for that purpose, and he told me to pick out my ring. He WANTED me to have something I loved, because he loves me, and he wanted me to love it. I’m VERY particular about anything I wear, right down to my socks, I wanted something “me”. I didn’t want a solitaire. He knows me, and he’s okay with it. At the time of purchase, we had already discussed an upgrade.


Sometimes it’s not always about budget.


Yes it’s just a ring. But it’s a ring I’ll be wearing for a very long time.


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