(Closed) People pretend that Groomzillas don’t exist…

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hahaha, i love that cake topper. Tell the dude to chill and maybe read Mr. Mango’s posts–he seems to be a pretty laid back groom who’s still on top of things

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

hahaha. i love it. i actually had a run-in with a groomzilla…ugh, totally not okay. hahaha. i think it’s just that they’re rare and boys totally get the benefit of the doubt. so not fair!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Wow, I’d remind him that a wedding is a union of TWO people and you want some input, too! And I love the picture 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ah, my honey was a Groomzilla at first too. He was determined to have his ‘vision’ for the wedding reception, which did not match my initial ‘vision’ (he wanted the Anti-Reception and I said hey, if it’s don’t broke, don’t fix it, let’s just go traditional.)

What seemed like this “Big Thing” at first ended up being nothing much, once we got past it. I really think that with a lot of today’s career men, they are used to doing things on their own. The idea that they are now part of a partnership and not Team Leader of their own life can be scary to them, and since often the wedding is the first big thing you collaborate on as a couple, this is where those emotions rear their heads!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh, that’s frustrating! I’m sorry you are feeling steamrolled. Hopefully he’ll realize as you talk about it more that you actually have some ideas and dreams, too — and that you happen to be one of TWO Co-Chairs on this particular committee!

In our case, he’s more “zilla” than I am — as far as that’s even possible, considering we’re super busy with work, etc.

Luckily for both of us, I have not been dreaming of my wedding since I was five — probably because I’m a cross-cultural kid, so I had no idea what either wedding was supposed to look like! This is good, because I’m beginning to realize my FH definitely has a dream wedding in his head! Now, he might not put it that way, but he definitely has a vision — it’s kind of adorable. After hearing all the talk about uninvolved grooms, I’d rather debate the finer points of a venue with my FH than have to convince him it actually matters.

Case in point — yesterday, we had this conversation:

Miss Sequoia: “Well, at least we don’t really have to plan until next summer.”

Mr. Redwood: “Wait, don’t we have to start planning this winter?!” (to get a particular venue on the date we want).

Sometimes hard for me (like when he tells me what I should be wearing! Excuse me?), but when I step back — Awww! He cares. He really cares.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Oh my Fiance is the same way.. not really about the wedding but he’s all about lists & plans. If I ever deviate from the list he gets his panties in a twist.

MANzilla’s totally exist!!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I live with the species known as the Everyday Manzilla!  We’re workin on it though…Wink

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I can testify too, sisters.

And I think CircusPeanut has a point…guys like my Fiance are very independent. My Fi has a lot of experience leading, planning, directing, orchestrating, and he tends to treat our wedding like another one of his projects.

He also is more concerned about things looking impressive/a certain way, than I am. That’s where the metrosexual thing comes in.

Sometimes I love how hard he works to get things done nicely for our wedding.

Other times I want to yell at him to BACK OFF!!!! This would be one of those times (as you’ll see from my other post in “Emotiona.”)

Nice to know I’m not the only one!

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