- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Oh boy! So we sent out our invites last week. My FI has a lot of cousins, who also have a lot of children. We decided early on that we are not having children at our wedding at all. We only invited aunts, uncles and close cousins for extended family. The invites were addressed: Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. They did NOT say & Family. We have already had someone who RSVPd that we invited the aunt and uncle but not any of the kids or grandkids … they RSVPd that they are bringing all these people, which adds EIGHT extra people to our guest list. If everyone does this, we are looking at 30 extra people at least! We do not have the money nor the supplies (I don’t even have enough stuff for the extra centrepieces) to accommodate all these people. Plus, we wanted a small wedding.
I know we (FI, actually since it’s his family) are going to have to tell them they can’t come, which is really too bad and hurts my heart since they are super excited to be coming. The thing is, I feel like I shouldn’t be the one feeling bad since to me this is just plain rude when all those names were not on the invites. I know it wasn’t meant to be rude, but come on, people, think about it!!!
Ugh … sorry this is a vent, I am stressing out!! Anybody else have this happen? How do you deal? Were the people upset when you told them no or did they understand?