(Closed) People say the most insensitive things…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Was it sarcastic?  Like maybe she meant it as a joke?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

POOP!  What a mean thing to say!  I’d be like… “I’m gonna have ababby whennnn I WANNA have a babbbby!” 

 

But then again…..I’m still somewhat of a baby ! haha

My sister got some insensitivity towards her when she took my nephew (her baby) out to target at like 9PM.  He was only a couple months old, (maybe 2, at most) and a woman came up to her and said how terrible of a mother she is for taking her baby out that late.  I mean COME ON.  The baby is going to be sleeping wherever he is!  Whether it be in the carrier at target, or the crib in his room!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow! She has no right to tell you when she thinks you should do things. She probably thinks that she knows everything now that she has a baby.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t call that insensitive, I’d call that being a bitch. Just my opinion.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

Wow…definitely insensitibe of her! Just because she has a timeline in her head of what she think should happen doesn’t mean that follows your timeline. You’re right, you can buy a house at any age!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i know its a lil harder to accept because it was your bestie…but people say the most rude things someetimes intentionally, sometimes not…Ive had people who always assume tht because i have my masters Fiance must have degrees….but he doesnt he works on cars…its insane for you to think that just because i have a degree Fiance should too…just like its crazy that your BFF would tell you to “get a home” first…People do whats best for them….not others end of story!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Miss Snowflake: oh wow, so clearly if you were pregnant it would just take the attention away from her. I’ve heard of brides being territorial over their month, but a whole year? but I guess we all have our hang-ups and clearly she has great qualities too or you wouldn’t be good friends. sometimes you just have to roll your eyes!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I find that people are really, really outspoken about their opinions regarding babies and timing and pregnancy.  It’s aggravating, and almost never welcome in my book, since having a child is such a personal decision and will change the rest of one’s life, you know?  I don’t care if you’re a BFF or a stranger, I don’t really want to know what you think about my plans. 

 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I agree that people don’t have a filter when it comes to the kids issue.  Since she’s your bestie, I’d actually sit her down and talk to her and let her know that she deeply hurt your feelings.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s totally up to you and your Darling Husband when you have a baby and no-one else! What she said was out of line and I would have been upset as well esp that she said it at work and infront of other people.

I had a women bring me to tears the other week while looking at maternity cloths. I’m not in need of them yet but we were just looking. While trying the shirts on a women and her daughter were staring at me (the girl had just made comments like “look pregnant people cloths” followed by an evil laugh). I said to my mom how my boobs aren’t filling this out, do you think they will and the women goes “Those are maternity cloths so maybe that’s why they aren’t fitting you”. I didn’t know what to say and was like “I’m…” nothing came out. I was so upset. I took the comment like I was too young to have a baby. I even tried to flash my ring but I guess she missed it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

if she is ur BFF then i’m thinking she doesnt mean to be hurtful and is just being a bit forward

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Aw, I’m sorry she hurt your feelings…I agree though with those who said to talk to her about it. If she’s really a friend she will feel bad about hurting your feelings and should apologize.

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