(Closed) People saying they think your DIY is tacky?

posted 8 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d just respond to her “I’m not doing silks I’m making my own fabric flowers and I’m SUPER excited about it! Here’s a link to how I hope they will turn out (insert link).” Just ignore the tone I say. Usually if you tell someone you’re happy/excited about something it is a cue for them to back off the judgment. Unless that person is my mother and then I have a whole other set of advice… πŸ˜‰ 

Post # 4
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1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think fabric flowers are tacky, I think they are crafty and cool. I don’t tend to think things are tacky, I find more certain behaviors to be tacky (*cough* like your bm’s comment on fb *cough, cough*). People all have different taste, and it sounds like what you are doing is perfect in your wedding’s atmosphere. Don’t worry about her comment.

I am also doing some DIY stuff for my wedding which has brought on some strange looks from friends and family who ask about it. What I usually say is, “Well, that’s the plan…we’ll see how it looks in the end. I think it will be awesome, but if not, I still have plenty of time to change it up.” For some reason, they seem okay with this. I guess it helps people to know you aren’t simply craft-crazy and you are focusing on creating a cool look for your wedding.

Luck! Share pics of your flowers when you get them done!

Post # 5
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@BlueRidgeMere: I’d be a bitch. I’d write her back and say, “You are really doing an over the top cliche wedding industry complex wedding? Are you? ARE YOU!?” 

Psha….I would tell her that you plan on doing fabric flowers and you will be so happy the day of that you actually put hard work and love into your wedding and didn’t let some vendor do all the work. ^_^ 

Post # 6
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

DIY weddings are super popular right now anyway, so tell her to shove it :). Or, I guess you could be nice and tell her that your theme is ‘rustic elegance’ and the fabric flowers will fit right in. Seriously, buy the girl a Martha Stewart Weddings magazine! DIY projects usually look fantastic! It sounds like she’s just trying to do what she thinks is the correct way to do everything, and that’s kind of outdated and will end up being super expensive. πŸ˜›

Post # 8
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would just say “yes, I am using hand made flowers in my wedding. :)”

Take the high road and just ignore her rudeness. Your wedding will be awesome!

Post # 9
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7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i wouldn’t bother justifying what you are doing. she has no reason to know. i might have just said “yes i am sure”  and leave it that. i wouldn’t waste my time with thoughtless comments except to respond in the simplest manner possible so as to not to come off rude for completely ignoring someone when they talk to you.

with a facebook message like that, if i took enough time to think and therefore resisting the urge to snap back, i would even say you shouldn’t reply at all.

Post # 10
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77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Everything I am doing is getting a comment from someone.  Example, I told my Future Mother-In-Law that I was going to wear a birdcage veil.  She responds if you do I’m going to laugh at you.  So with as much tact as possible, I responded, it’s a good thing I’m going to be so focused on your son that I won’t give a $*#& if you are laughing. 

You can’t pay attention to all the negativity.  When you are an “offbeat” bride you will have people scratching their heads because it isn’t the norm, but at the end of the day I bet they will remember your wedding because it wasn’t.

Post # 11
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think, just like anything, DIY can be done fabulously, or it can be done tackey. Same goes for ultra-glamourous rentals – it can be badly done or too over-the-top. Perhaps she just hasn’t been exposed to the same great inspiration photos as you, and can’t picture it?

Post # 13
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7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@BlueRidgeMere: i still say she doesn’t deserve to see your inspiration photos. let her be high and mighty and her mouth will be snapped shut on your wedding day when she sees everything. i only like to share wedding details with those who are genuinely interested. not to defend what i am doing.

Post # 15
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1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In her defense, I have to say that I’ve seen some really ugly, pointless DIY stuff at weddings. I actually have not ever seen anything cute in real life, except for some of the girls on weddingbee ( who I haven’t seen in real life either lol). So she may have to actually see what you are doing in order to appreciate it. That said, she should have kept her comment to herself.

Post # 16
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Before our wedding we sat down to dinner with my husband’s friend who was also getting married. Of course we spent the whole time talking wedding. She was having a huge, lavish wedding with huge beautiful centerpieces and told me all about her fancy wedding. Meanwhile, when she asked me questions about vendors, my answer was usually “we’re doing that ourself.” She didn’t actually tell me that it was “tacky” or not ok to do that, but I could tell she didn’t agree with the type of wedding I wanted to have.

For me, even if I had the money (which I did, I just wanted to save some money for our future), I wouldn’t have had the big fancy affair that she did. And in the end, it’s my wedding, so I’m the one who has to like it, not her.

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