(Closed) People saying they think your DIY is tacky?

posted 9 years ago in DIY
Post # 17
Member
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

View original reply
@Miss Tattoo: Haha.

I’m making my own fabric flowers as well and sometimes I’m scared what people will think, but, I know they look great, and personally, I’m just starting to not care!!

Post # 18
Member
110 posts
Blushing bee

I’m not sure which Bee posted about this recently but I remember something like this in the last month or two.  I thought it was a great post and plan on using it.  This is the basic idea:

Somebody says “I’m not so sure about homemade flowers.”
You say “I’m sure.”

Somebody says “I think homemade flowers will be tacky.”
You say “I dont.”

Somebody says “You’re not really doing homemade flower are you?”
You say “I am.”

Short, simple answers with no room for further discussion.  If they press the issue, say “I appreciate your opinion and I’m sure that would be very nice but we’ve already made our decision.”  Cuts them off as quickly as possible by making your point.

Post # 19
Member
212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I had a friend who kept saying similar things and make comments because we are having a buffet, no black tie, and short bridesmaid dresses.

I finally got so frustrated I simply said ‘ your view of what a wedding should be is really different than mine.  Please stop putting down my wedding, it is rude’. She hasn’t said a negative thing since.

It is your wedding. Don’t let other people make you feel bad about your choice to do DIY.

Post # 20
Member
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sorry to butt in…do you have a link to the fabric flower tutorial? I am trying to find some I like because I think they are lovely and so unique! 

Post # 21
Member
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

hehe, I said the phrase “trust the vision!” like a broken record throughout my planning.  A lot of things I had planned some people had doubts about, but I think it came together perfectly in the end. 

You’re the only one who knows every detail of your wedding, and the overall feeling/theme you’re trying to achieve. 

Post # 22
Member
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would like to see the flower pics too! I would love to try some out.

 

I told my sis I wanted to try to make coffee filter flowers and those tissue paper pomander/kissing ball things. I was really excited…She responded “OMG, do NOT do those”. Oh….I felt hurt. And then later, I was prepared to tell her STFU in case she did it again….but hasn’t since. 

Post # 23
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Own what you are doing and don’t worry what she says!  I did fabric flowers for my bouquet and I LOVE how it turned out.  Also, find someone to confide in who loves everything you do.  That will keep you strong!  Luckily I only shared with people who loved everything I am doing.  Plus I introduced my mom to Weddingbee so she was up on new wedding trends we haven’t seen.  That helped!

Oh, but from my dad I heard that it was horrible I wasn’t having cake (I’m having a dessert bar) and that beer only goes with cake.  Whatever.  Then I heard how horrible it will look to have a best lady.  But the big thing was how boring our father/daughter dance will be for the guests.  For my sister, she and he did one of those fun dances halfway through a traditional song.  He brought it up several times and even went so far as to pull out my sisters wedding video, fast forward to his dance, and point out how no one was paying attention until the fun dance cut in and then how everyone loved it.  Finally I told him nicely that enough was enough.  And from then on, boring/horrible/any negative word would not be used in the same sentence as my wedding unless it was followed up by 10 compliments and things he was looking forward to.  I never heard a bad word again.  

Post # 24
Member
1557 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve learned it’s always best to be ready with examples. I try to explain what I’m thinking, and they give me looks like I’m crazy. But if they see the images, they go “oooh… how neat” 

 

Post # 26
Member
6350 posts
Bee Keeper

View original reply
@BlueRidgeMere: I’m dying to see them when you are done! I think your vision sounds awesome and fun. I’m sorry your friend is being less than helpful.

Post # 27
Member
33 posts
Newbee

@BlueRidgeMere: I personally LOVE DIY brides! So creative and budget saving… what’s not to love?! People have not questioned my DIY ways just yet but when they do I just plan on saying that it’s my style and it’s what I want to do. Ignore the haters!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 28
Member
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

yeah people did that to me too.  but then it was all worthwhile when they saw the whole look come together.  on the wedding day everyone complimented all my DIY projects and said everything looked so beautiful.  I’m sure they will all come around for you too.  Just don’t listen to them in the meantime and trust your own gut.

Post # 30
Member
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Tell her to stuff it!!  Its what you want, not her.  I love the photos with the hand maid flowers. You can see all of the heart a person put into it.

Post # 31
Member
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

View original reply
@glamfish500: that was miss sloth who said that

The topic ‘People saying they think your DIY is tacky?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors