Post # 1
So I waited the obligatory 13 weeks until we annouced our pregnancy to extended family and friends. I was safely in my 4th month/2nd trimester on doctor’s orders. Since I’m overweight with a family history of diabetes and high blood pressure, my pregnancy was classifed as ‘high risk’. My doctor basically have me the ‘talk’ about not saying anything until the first trimester passed. We only told our parents and siblings.
So now that everyone knows people are shocked I waited “so long” to say anything. It’s actually surprising. I always thought that was the universal rule, to wait until the 4th month. I even had a relative get UPSET with me for not telling her soon. I was taken back but explained to her I was under doctor’s orders. People at church was happily shocked too when I tell them I’m a few days away from five months. Everyone keeps asking “wy didnt you say anything” or “did you not know?”
Anyone have anything similar??
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Really? We waited 13 or 14 weeks and no one repsonded with shock. I have a friend who didn’t announce to the general public until she was 6 months along. That was surprising.
Post # 4
When people tell really soon, I spend weeks/months being nervous for them so I appreciate your restraint.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel
I told people at about 10w after we’d had two ultrasounds and saw/heard the heartbeat. When I told my Dad, who I’m very close with, he said, “Why didn’t you tell me before?!” While my claim was that it was because we were being cautious, (and it partly was, he was just the last to know) I was also kind of freaked out about it. I’m his little girl, and it squicked me out to be all, “Not a baby anymore, carrying one, now!”
Post # 6
@Neetch: I always felt that way too…but now that I’m pregnant I’ve been so sick and have so many people at work asking me to do things I can’t do, like help lift very heavy objects, that I had to tell. And like I expected, people were surprised I was telling them already around the nine week mark. So yeah, it also surprises me that you got that reaction, OP. Seems like some people are just looking for fault in others so they have a reason to gossip or criticize, it’s unfortunate.
Post # 7
I won’t be telling immediate family or friends until 4 months at least since I will be high risk as well.
It’s upsetting that people don’t understand how private and serious of a matter it is at those stages.
Post # 8
@Neetch: So do I. I’ve had friends on FB post their 2nd month ultrasounds. I even had a friend who sadly reported she was pregnant on FB and when she miscarried in the 2nd month she had to FB that too
I was a WRECK until we heard the heartbeat, and then a semi-wreck until I hit the 4th month
Post # 9
Goodness me, some people! Whatever happened to “AYYYYYE I’m so excited for you!!”
No I never got that reaction. I told a little earlier than 13 weeks, but still. Sorry you’ve had to deal with that. And congratulations!
Post # 10
@LuvMySailor: How awful. I’ve always wondered how people deal with that on Facebook. I couldn’t imagine having to explain that to so many people after making such a huge public announcement like that.
Post # 11
I’m kind of surprised the Dr. felt it was his business to tell you when you should or shouldn’t announce your pregnancy. I get pregnant via IVF and unless I am just going to not talk to anyone or hide during the process people generally know when I am trying to get pregnant so I don’t get the luxury of hiding it. However being high risk in a way it was better for me that people knew when I m/c because I was just devastated and there was no way I could carry on like normal. So I guess it works both ways- for some people having it out there is their style and others like to keep things quiet.
Post # 12
@LuvMySailor: Yeah, I’ve had a facebook friend post about her pregnancy the day they found out, and then she miscarried soon after and posted about that too, frequently.
Post # 13
I’ve told a few people, including a few people at work, but two are my assistants, one is a friend, and another is a woman that just had a baby, so I was asking her some maternity leave related stuff. I’ve told parents, sibling, in-laws, and best friend in addition to those people. They are all people I feel comfortable confiding in either way. I haven’t said a word on FB LOL….one girl I know told at 3 weeks, before she had even missed her period! It turned out ok, luckily, but I would give anything to be that worry-free!
Post # 14
I always thought I would tell people who are close to me early on the basis that even if I had a MC, I would probably tell them that I did anyway. But now I’m pretty sure I will wait until at least 12 weeks to tell people. I know I will tell siblings and parents before that but still probably not until the 8-10 week mark.
I have a friend who told everyone immediately when they got a BFP and then they lost the baby shortly after which was hard because people on facebook were asking how she was feeling and she had to reveal publicly that she had lost it. They got pregnant again soon after and didn’t tell anyone until the 12-14 week mark that time.
Post # 15
Im almost 7months and JUST recently (6.5 months) told the FB world. Lol.
Post # 16
Most of my friends have waited until the second trimester to announce a pregnancy publicly. One waited until she had her gender ultrasound at around 18 weeks. Darling Husband and I will be keeping it to ourselves until at least 12-13 weeks, even for family.