(Closed) People telling you not to get married?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

I got that a lot too.  I think it’s just strange wedding related conversation.  Similar to:  Is everything done?  Are you excited?  Are you sure?  Blah blah blah.

Pause.Smile.ChangeTheSubject!!!

Gah!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t get that so much but Fiance gets it all the time because he works with a bunch of guys who divorced and their ex-wives took half their retirement. I can understand they are bitter but leave your comments to yourself! Sheesh.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I got that alot from people; friends, family members, the works. Thankfully the family members came around….the friends…not so much 😛 the point is that you should be happy for yourself and other people should learn that not ever relationship is the same as theirs was :P.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Some people are just bitter. I really hate when people are negative like that.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

People should just keep their mouths shut and butt out

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ditto.  Bitter people I don’t care for.

I had a few say something to me and it hurt my feelings, but I know they were just projecting their negativity and I didn’t let it get me down, although one tried really hard a few days before I left for my weddingmoon!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Haha I had the funniest experience with this little old lady that I know from my work.

Little Old Lady: Wow, I see you got engaged.

Me: Yes, last week. I’m pretty excited.

Little Old Lady: So you’re going to get married?

Me: Yup.

Little Old Lady: Why?

Me: (laughing nervously) Because I love him. Because we’re ready…Wait, haven’t you been married for like fifty years?

Little Old Lady: Exactly! Run now. 

She just caught me completely off guard. It was pretty darn cute.

 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

My mom is bad about giving “back-handed” advice. 

Tonight, she texted me “so and so is getting divorced.  be careful what you wish for.” 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

I got it a LOT. Darling Husband and I are relatively young and hes in the military. So, of course, all of the guys in his shop were telling him not to do it. I work in retail, so I had customers come in telling me not to do it.

Ugh. Really annoying.

Just because you, your sister, your best friend, or your third cousin twice removed’s marriage didnt work, doesnt mean mine wont. My parents have been married 35 years and DH’s g-parents for 68 years.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t get those comments, but Fiance got them a lot when we got engaged. Some of his coworkers are divorced, and others are unhappily married. But there were positive comments too. One guy from his work said: Congratulations! You won’t regret it! Getting married was the best thing I ever did.

Luckily, the last comment is the one Fiance took seriously. 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ah, yeahhh… I hear that a lot, too. And then it transitions into the “you’re so young, why are you rushing? blah blah blah” conversation. Grr.   

Just try to remember that those people can only relate with their negative relationship experiences. And try your best to not injure or scream at them 😉 haha.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@indyJEEP: I feel like the “too young” comment is like this standard amongst older folks actually; though thankfully our parents certainly dont feel that way. Just goes to show you how times have changed- ten, 15 years ago I dont think a 22 year old, or even 28 would be considered “too young.” Regardless, its still such an offputting comment, and I find it really odd that the commenter doesnt realize that at the time! O well, best just to focus on how happy  you are and let them stew in their negative juices!

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Jeez, does anybody watch Bambi anymore??  If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My mom, definitely! She says I have all the time in the world to get married.

Yeah, I have all the time in the world, and I’d rather SPEND IT MARRIED!

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