(Closed) People that grind my gears

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
4476 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Sounds like a winner!  Undecided  I think your plan of not talking to them but being cordial when necessary’s a good way to go, even though they don’t deserve it.


And peanut butter & chocolate anything’s awesome.

Post # 4
567 posts
Busy bee

They trashed your house? Who does that?! 

I think you are daling with it fine.

Post # 5
3400 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Who the eff trashes somebody’s house on their wedding night!?


Yuck, they sound idiotic & stupid.

The pie thing? Flat out dumb. Who wastes perfectly fine & delicious food to prove a point? (the point being..? who the hell knows)

Post # 6
2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Who on earth trashes someone’s house? Especially on their wedding night? I wouldn’t tolerate a child doing this, let alone people old enough to know far better.

Anyway, so far as the dessert is concerned, your cousin is the silly one. She deprived herself of a delicious dessert in order to prove a pointless point. Clearly she has a long way to go before any sort of maturity sets in. In fact, I’d laugh at the very idea that she thought people would notice or care.

Post # 7
4656 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Cummins59:  I remember your other post, these people seem kind of horrible… You’re so much more graceful and kind about this crap than I would be.

Post # 8
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ah, I remember your post about what they did. They’re trash. Ignore her stupid “getting back at you” because she’s obviously a moron.

Post # 9
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

What a childish thing to do! I’ll bet when your back was turned she picked it out of the trash, gobbled it up and licked her plate! 

Post # 10
8725 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Cummins59:  You say you have moved on but it doesn’t really sound like it. It is just a piece of pie and personally I think you are making a much bigger deal out of someone throwing away a piece of pie than there needs to be. Maybe she tasted it and disliked it, maybe a fly landed on it, maybe she realised it had an ingredient in it that she couldn’t eat? There are a million reasons why she could have thrown out the piece of pie.

Be civil, say hello and then ignore her and stop paying attention to her. You can turn anything someone does into a slight if you try hard enough.


Post # 11
2949 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

The only word I can think of to describe that little display is pathetic. Brava to you for being able to handle that graciously.


Post # 12
7385 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Continue to take the higher road. What a petulant child that adult is. I feel sorry for her husband.

Post # 14
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Cummins59:  They did a bad thing and you and your husband had every right to be mad. I’m glad that at least two people in this situation are mature enough to move past it. Cousin 2 sounds like the real problem here, she is a child and she’s looking to get a reaction out of you. So deal with her like you would a child and ignore her. 

Next time she throws away the pie, smile back at her to show her that you don’t care. Whatever you do don’t stoop to her level. It’s astonishing what level of mean, childish, petty behaviour families will accept from people simply because they’ve been doing it for years. If your cousin has always been a childish bitch people are probably used to it and willing to make excuses for her ( eg ‘it was just a prank!’). So if you act like a bitch to her then you’ll look like the bad guy because your in-laws hold your cousin to a lesser standard of behaviour than everybody else. 

Post # 16
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Cummins59:  Wow, that cousin sounds really immature.

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