(Closed) People that lie!

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll:
    Yes I lie, none of your business. : (23 votes)
    28 %
    White lies are ok : (46 votes)
    57 %
    No Way! : (11 votes)
    14 %
    Other, you tell me. : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @MrsPanda99:  oh that’s totally true, I’m sure many people are lying when they say “I’m fine” because honestly, are you going to spew out everything that’s going on to some random coworker? No, and they don’t expect you to. And I bet people who say they don’t lie fall into the “I’m fine” trap, and don’t consider it lying.

    I just remembered I’m currently white-lying to Fiance. Normally I’m honest about everything, but he’s under the impression that he was very sneaky and got my e-ring delivered to the apartment without me knowing. In reality, I totally knew he had the ring. So I’m letting him think he surprised me. He’s very pleased with himself for being sneaky, so why would I take that away from him? I’d gain nothing, and he’d be disappointed.

    Lies aren’t always bad. People lie to plan surprises. No one gets hurt, it’s for a good reason, but it’s still lying. The alternative would be removing the element of surprise for, say…a surprise party, or an engagement…I don’t think anyone has a problem with lying in those scenarios! I lied to my mom about where I was one (which I never did), because I was at a floral design class and wanted to surprise her with the floral arrangement. No harm done!

    basically my point is…as long as the lying isn’t done maliciously and mostly done to spare feelings/plan surprises/etc, lying isn’t so bad (can be good) and doesn’t need to be looked down on so much.

    Post # 33
    Member
    11467 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I absolutely *detest* lying. However, sadly, I think that most people DO lie.

    I also have to agree with<@Hyperventilate:   that we ALL end up lying in *some* form, even if it is through exaggeration or politeness. I know I am guilty of saying things such as, “You *always* do this …” or “There were a million people at the mall …,” when, clearly, nobody *always* does anything, and there really weren’t a million people at the mall.

    I’ve also found myself in a few situations where I have felt awkward about having just genuinely and sincerely complimented someone in front of someone else, and then I’ve stretched to find a compliment for the other person, and, out of awkward nervousness, I quickly found myself saying something nice to someone that I would not necessarily have said, had I had another moment to think about what I going to say. I am someone who strives to tell the truth, and, once I’ve heard myself saying something that I realize is inaccurate, feels compelled to try to correct the inaccuracy. Because of this, I often am too obsessed with details, providing verbal asterisks, and over-explaning things.

    Post # 34
    Member
    1040 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsWBS:  Agreed!

     

    However, if it’s to avoid hurting someone’s feelings, I will sometimes refrain from speaking, based on the situation.  Lie by omission?

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