- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
@MrsPanda99: oh that’s totally true, I’m sure many people are lying when they say “I’m fine” because honestly, are you going to spew out everything that’s going on to some random coworker? No, and they don’t expect you to. And I bet people who say they don’t lie fall into the “I’m fine” trap, and don’t consider it lying.
I just remembered I’m currently white-lying to Fiance. Normally I’m honest about everything, but he’s under the impression that he was very sneaky and got my e-ring delivered to the apartment without me knowing. In reality, I totally knew he had the ring. So I’m letting him think he surprised me. He’s very pleased with himself for being sneaky, so why would I take that away from him? I’d gain nothing, and he’d be disappointed.
Lies aren’t always bad. People lie to plan surprises. No one gets hurt, it’s for a good reason, but it’s still lying. The alternative would be removing the element of surprise for, say…a surprise party, or an engagement…I don’t think anyone has a problem with lying in those scenarios! I lied to my mom about where I was one (which I never did), because I was at a floral design class and wanted to surprise her with the floral arrangement. No harm done!
basically my point is…as long as the lying isn’t done maliciously and mostly done to spare feelings/plan surprises/etc, lying isn’t so bad (can be good) and doesn’t need to be looked down on so much.