(Closed) People that RSVP ‘Yes’ But Don’t Show Up

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 17
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3613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I didn’t know it was this common. Hmm, maybe I will find it in my heart to forgive my no-show couple…But I still don’t get the no calling or apologizing!

Post # 18
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510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

A good friend of DH called him the day of the wedding, a couple of hours before the wedding to tell him he wasn’t going to be able to make it…uhhh, you live in seattle…you knew you weren’t going to make it LONG before that call…and why the day of?!?!? we were super pissed…and two of my really good girlfriends called me the day before to tell me they weren’t coming…one didn’t give an explaination (but I saw the facebook pics of her random trip to Atlanta) wow really?!?! and my other girlfriend had a baby shower (also seen on facebook) that she went to…my thought was that all of those events were pre-planned…so why tell me the day before? I definitely wasn’t a happy camper…hello! that’s food that we had already paid for!

Post # 19
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Out of our 40 people we had 3 no-shows. One was the daughter of my husband’s cousin. He showed up with 2 of his kids but left his teenage daughter home for some reason. No one mentioned it but I think it was probably something to do with her mother more so than anything. Another was a friend of mine that had rsvped for himself +1. He wasn’t invited with a guest but I let it slide and saved space for him and his guest since he wouldn’t know many people. We haven’t heard anything from him so I’m kinda annoyed by the fact that I set aside extra space and he couldn’t even manage a phone call.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had probably about 15 no-shows! A bunch of DH’s family RSVP’d and we had a feeling they weren’t actually ever planning on coming, and we were right. If I could go back and not give their count to the caterer, I would, but I was so afraid they’d show up and it would be awkward that they didn’t have a seat! We had a whole empty table 🙁

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

We had a really good friend of Mr Trailmix’s say she was coming and made a hotel res but then the day before the wedding, he texted her asking if she was still coming and she responded that she couldn’t bc she had to study for a test (she’s in med school.) It’s totally fine that she couldn’t come bc of school but if he hadn’t texted her, she wouldnt’ve told us at all! So rude…We had about 4 other no-shows but that one was definitely the worst.

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had one person who rsvp’d yes and told me a little ahead of time they weren’t coming! I kiiiinda wanted to send her a bill for $300 haha ;P But I didn’t. And it all worked out 🙂

Post # 23
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900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My sister had 5 no shows out of 120.  No one told her ahead of time.  A couple said they were sick…others gave no reason at all.

Post # 24
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2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had some no shows! It was obnoxious. Couldn’t they have just called us and let us know? We didn’t have to pay the food bill until the night of the wedding… could have saved ourselves a few hundred dollars.

We also had some people RSVP that they were bringing a guest and then not even bring the date. One of those people in particular didn’t even give us anything either. Sooo we paid for him and his nonexistent date and got squat in return. Boo.

A couple of other things that bothered me was that some of my in laws friend gave SO little. Now normally I wouldn’t care, except my in laws had just gone to their kids’ wedding and given the normal $100-$150. Not to mention they were all doctors and came as husband and wife and gave $25. Weird.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had about 10 of these. 3 were family members who couldn’t come because of medical issues (totally understandable), but the rest were either a) friends who just didn’t show, and I haven’t heard from, or b) people who RSVP’d that they’d bring a guest, but didn’t after all. There were also a couple that showed up to the ceremony, but didn’t come to the reception. I’m over it, but disappointed in them and bummed out about that extra money that I wasted and could have spent on other things (or even better – not spent at all!)

Post # 26
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5976 posts
Bee Keeper

We had a bunch of these. One excuse was that they decided to throw a baby shower for her cousin. Hmm…don’t you usually have to plan those in advance? I got a lot of sick excuses and a lot who just plain didn’t show up. Really irked me, but what can you do?

Post # 27
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1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

That’s annoying! At my friends wedding, his cousin made a big stink about coming with BF then never showed. Made some excuse about car trouble but it turned out she never even left the house that day!

Post # 28
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We had a few no-shows, but I didn’t even notice til the next day. I was having too much fun at my own reception to notice. 🙂 There were about 5 people out of 60 that didn’t show, but DH and I both kind of “knew” that they would probably flake on us.

Post # 29
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235 posts
Helper bee

For my first son’s wedding I had 3 couples of just my friends who didn’t show and I have no idea how many of my son’s friends or the brides family didn’t show. Two couples were co-workers and their husbands who told me later that they wouldn’t have known anyone so they didn’t come. So why the heck did they RSVP yes in the first place?  The other couple was my attorney/friend and his wife who I saw later and they said they forgot.  Sooooooo….for my second son’s wedding this Saturday, NONE of these people got an invite!  And….I got a new attorney!

Post # 30
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i am terrified of this! especially for the people who took SOOO long to respond (like they were deciding?)

our planner says when they have to give the final number 3 days before the wedding, they usually give a number that is a few less than the actual RSVP number in anticipation of a few no-shows. and if they all show, its easy to make more food. but once they make it, you can bet they’re charging you for it…..

Post # 31
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had to give final numbers to the venue 3 weeks prior to the wedding.  Our count was 90 guests who had RSVP’d yes at that time, and I gave them a final # of 84.  Between the 3 week, and 3 day out FINAL number we dropped to 84 exactly, and then on the wedding day we had 3 no shows.  Two people showed up to the ceremony, and then decided to go to touristy stuff in the area rather than coming to our reception.

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