(Closed) People that RSVP ‘Yes’ But Don’t Show Up

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We also, had a few couples that were no shows and then I had a lot of family that didn’t show up, which bummed me out!  Mainly because I always try to make it to every wedding in our family, because it is a big deal.  It wasn’t like our ceremony was hours away from where my family lives, it was 45 minutes away……I was finally getting over the fact that they didn’t show up, and most of them didn’t even send a card at least congratulating us, but my cousin who just got married this past June, guess what….yep….they were all there for that one…..kind of makes you feel like there is something wrong with you!!!  And I’m pretty sure that it will be the same way when my other cousin gets married in a few weeks…..Extended Family….guess you gotta love em!!

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I actually committed this terrible sin but seriously it was there own fault. They had sent an invite with the wrong information!! Granted I should have caught the error, but I really wasn’t scouring over the invite. It read Saturday, and the date. It should have read FRIDAY and the date. I RSVP’d w/o much thought (b/c I never work weekends) and then like 3 days before the wedding heard from a friend that the invites were printed wrong and it was Friday. I needed to be at work until 6:30 and FH was working until 8:00, the ceremony started at 5 and the reception right after. The site was over an hour away. I could not ask to leave early as the reason I had to work until 6:30 was to cover another girl. I would have only been able to attend for not even an hour as the reception ended at 9:30 and I really didn’t want to drive all that way by myself just to show up late. I did call the groom and apologize the day before the wedding. He acted put off, but ya know what, if he would have sent the right info in the first place OR called the guests as soon as they realized their error, I could have made plans! Seriously how do you put Saturday on an invite that you send out to 100 people knowing that the wedding is on Friday?!

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Fiance has a flaky cousin who doesn’t have a car (we live in Los Angeles – you gotta have a car, or take the initiative to use the bus…she has neither). Of course, she hasn’t responded by the reply date and I have mentally already crossed her off the list. She has three kids that we invited, so if we counted them in and they ditched us, that’s about $250 down the drain.

There are some people you could bend over backwards for to accomodate, but you already know your efforts would be unappreciated or in vain…she’s one of those people. I don’t see a need to call her, arrange for a ride, work something out, etc.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had two couples that didn’t show. One of them got back to me today and was so incredibly upset she had missed it. She had just written it down as a different date in her diary. DH’s couple friends haven’t spoken to him about it yet. Although I was the most upset about my friend who texted me an hour before the reception to say she wouldn’t make it because she was too upset as her guinea pig had died that week. 

Oh well, at least we had a cocktail reception so it wasn’t glaringly obvious. But Darling Husband and I knew.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We had several no-shows, most of them were either our friends or my parents friends.  We also didn’t get a card/gift from any of them.  I can understand not coming at the last minute, it was December and there was snow, but not even to acknowledge it with a card? 

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

*shaking in boots*

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

In January, less than a month after losing my baby, McGroom and I went to a wedding. I RSVP’d that we’d come as long as Moose wasn’t wanting to come that day. When we showed, she was so surprised to see us because I never said anything about coming or not after losing Moose. It wasn’t something I thought about, which makes sense to me. Well, I invited her to my wedding, haven’t heard a thing. I sent her a message asking if she got the invite. No response. Can she seriously be mad at me because we came to her wedding after RSVPing “yes, as long as I’m not in labor,” losing our baby the month before (who was due the following month), and then coming? We gave a nice present and everything. I just don’t understand.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

WOW i guess i kinda expect a few no shows… I hope everyone shows at least who RSVP’s.

But what scares me is Mexicans are nictorious for not RSVP’ing and just showing up with extra people LOL

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had 3 people not show … one facebook messaged me that morning saying she had to work, the couple called my dad and they had a vehicle breakdown and couldn’t do the 3 hour drive … it was unfortunate.

Post # 41
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My family and I were talking about it this weekend — and how tough that is when people do not show because it is so expensive…10 no shows would mean 1100 bucks for us. Not fun.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MrsJVP: Oh I am so scared of this too. My people are the same. At my sisters wedding, half the people didn’t rsvp but they showed up…late. Yes yes I know lots of stereotypes here but sometimes people do a great job reinforcing the stereotype…at least in my family. LOL.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had 4 no-shows. Two we knew ahead of time, probably would not make it due to a recent hip surgery.

The other two were the mister’s cousins who we’d had to chase down to hear back from at all… we didn’t end up including those two in our meal count and I’m so glad we didn’t!  {They’re two of five siblings, and only one actually ever bothered to reply directly to us, I was shocked at how rude they all were about rsvp’ing!}

Post # 44
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Sugar bee

We had 2 no shows. 

One had pnemonia and didn’t want to fly with that.

One was driving 6 hours to get there and his car broke down an hour after leaving his house.  So he had a broken car and no good way to get there without paying big $$. 

However, we had one person who we didn’t expect to show who did show.  They had RSVPd yes but for some reason my mom told me he meant to RSVP no.  Why I didn’t call and confirm what my mom was saying I don’t know but he was there just like he had RSVPd but I hadn’t given him a seat, but we figured it out and it helped to have the no shows.

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We had a few…

1) His landlord ran over his dog. She’s a bit “messed up” but will be okay (in his words).

2) Friend of the guy above. Knew no one else so he didnt want to come since Rich couldnt come.

3) One couple lost his Mom the day of rehearsal. Unexpectedly too 🙁

4) Two couples came late to the reception because they were waiting for the babysitter so they missed dinner.

Annoying but why fret about it? Not much can be done 🙂

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We had almost an entire table do this as well.  I felt awful for the one couple eating alone at that table.  Turns out none of them had really intended on coming…just RSVP “no” people!  They were even family members to boot.  It is frustrating, but it happens.

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