FIVE no-shows. Hi iswimibikeirun! Reading your comment was like deja vu, only my husband’s cousin’s horrid g.f. (now ex) CAME in jeans and t-shirt. I guess in silent protest of not wanting to be there, even though the cousin and his mother made a big stink about including her. I had 5 no shows. My late mother’s voice was ringing in my ears -under order food! We didn’t. Our photog insisted we not order him food b/c he said of the hundreds of weddings he’s shot, there has ALWAYS been at least 1 no show. So, we had 3 plates we paid for and didn’t use, b/c we gave my photog & videographer a meal each, but of course we had ordered something different for the videographer which was wasted. We also had a basically 1/2 empty table, which looked GREAT and sucked for the people sitting there.
My boss didn’t come (she had a death in family, so fine, but from what I understand it was waaay before the wedding.) My other boss and her husband (who I have NEVER MET) didn’t show. She claimed she never got the invite even though I confirmed her address & sent one to her home and one to our school. (I’m a teacher, but was on medical leave at the time.) AND I verbally confirmed with her. My co-workers said blowing off weddings is like a hobby for her, so no one invites her anymore. Wish I’d listened. It was b/c of them and other no-shows that I couldn’t invite my coworkers. I didn’t want to burn bridges so I invited my bosses, on of whom has resigned!
My cousin decided to help her daughter move back to college. Yeah, that didn’t get decided THAT day. She should have called.
Lastly, my boss from the restaurant didn’t show b/c my other old co-workers wouldn’t wait for him or something, so he sulked and blew it off. You missed a hell of a filet, chief. Oh and a fabu party!
All in all, we estimate these people cost us between $825-$1000+, and NOT a one sent a gift. (My cousin’s husband came with a card which had cash.) My old boss (the unmarried one) sent a card like 2 months later explaining why she didn’t show. I’m not a gift grubber, but sheesh, it would have nice to recoup SOME of that loss.
Oh did I mention I didn’t really want to invite any of the no-shows but felt obligated.
Before I was engaged, my BFF RSVPed with a guest, mind you, to a fairly close friend’s wedding and decided to blow it off the day of without calling because she couldn’t afford a gift! I told her not to b/c the girl would have to pay for 2 empty places and would hate her. Also, she could have given SOMETHING (even a card, or a little something meaningful -a set of champagne flutes), or not RSVPed with a guest when she had no one in mind, or had a little foresight and put a little money away, or saved and given a gift within that year window. I would have given at least a card with an explanation. Who goes to a wedding w/o a card?? Do they think we just won’t notice? (Can you all tell these are my fave rants?!) The girl did speak to her again -I woudn’t have, but they eventually grew apart. My BFF should have AT LEAST given her a gift within that year to show how sorry she was and to congratulate her friends. She missed her friend’s wedding for the dumbest reason ever. I love her, but btwn her and my sister (my BMs), it was like having Negative Nancy & Debbie Downer by my side planning. Yay.